Should I leave my husband/father of my child?
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You are not overreacting at all, your safety and your baby safety is first, maybe with that he will wake up and get help
Sounds like you are doing it as a single parent already hun. You may aswell be on your own In a safe environment with your child, away from the stress of his drinking habit and reckless ways and give your child a more structured safe life. He will have to prove himself if he wants to have his daughter on his own. Sounds like all he’s bringing is chaos and upset to your life and potential trauma to your child’s. Sounds like he’s resented the idea of being held down as a parent, obeyed the fact that going out every weekend just isn’t a luxury you have as a parent and he’s rebelled against it. In the process he’s causing drama when he gets home. But his needs and what he wants are not important if you ask me. It’s about your mental health, physical wellbeing and your child’s! He can go a galavant like an 18 year old child if that’s what he’s about but you sound like your a really good mum and want the best for your child. You’re better off doing it on your own hun. Trust me it’s not
Continued-… as people think I had two of my children on my own for a couple of years before I met my partner. It’s likely to be more peaceful. I really hope these comments bring you to do what you feel is right for you and your child x
He has not matured to the point of seeing your child's safety as paramount. It's a silly game to him, which makes him not up to the task of fatherhood. You're right not to leave your child alone with him, but you need a long-term plan that is more concrete. There will be times in life that you are not able to be there/present for your child (hopefully not many, but this will come up at some point) and you don't want him to be the default option. Do you? 🤔
Get out of there!!!
You and your baby deserve to be safe and loved! Get out of there before he does drop her or worse. You are her mama, you need to protect your baby no matter what!
Could he have some Post Natal Depression?
@Rachel Sounds like he hasn't changed since before baby and now that baby is here?! If that's the case... run girl! They never change!
@Vanessa you're right. He used to be a lot worse and now his argument is that he's gotten so much better. It's still not good father behavior even though he's tried to change.
My sister left the BD when her lo was 3 months. My niece is 13 now & he still hasn't changed. The drinking never stopped & the abuse got worse. He almost dropped the baby i dont know how many times. He also used to do just stupid & wtf stuff with the baby, just like u said urs is doing. Like they dont realise the consequences to their actions. Eventually, he stopped all contact with the baby, he refused to touch her nvm lift a finger to help. These men will promise the world, but action speaks louder than words. Ur guy seems to be on a road that is going to lead to u or ur LO being hurt. Take care of your LO & do whatever u need 2, 2 make sure she is safe & u are safe 2. She is gonna need her mama. It's hard, but u have taken the first step... now just make it happen. & just remember, if he does "man up" & become a better person after u've left, & u can see the change, no one is stopping u going back. Your job as a mom is to protect your LO, above everything else. Take care & all the best xxx
My husband had a bit of a drinking problem. When our son was 8 weeks old I went to bed and left them alone to nap. I woke up, husband was passed out asleep on the couch, the bottle was left warming in the water for idk how long, and in front of him the baby was screaming his head off. Husband was a combo of drunk/tired. I lost my shit. I told him if he ever did anything like that again I would be gone, along with our son. He shaped up. He and I are VERY happy 95% of the time. We don't fight. We enjoy each other and have been together over 6 years. They can change IF THEY WANT TO. If they don't and have no desire to be a present parent, leave. My husband had a coming to God moment and has changed his ways. It took one time, along with the threat of losing his family. You CANNOT risk your child's safety. They screw up once and it could be fatal. Don't mess around with drunken childcare and a man who doesn't value family.
I would leave. The car seat bit of your account is particularly distressing. I'm so sorry.
You are absolutely not overreacting! My BD’s drinking was on of the main reasons I walked away- he tried holding my girl when she was a baby when he was drunk and saw nothing wrong with it and just laughed it off and he was so drunk he couldn’t even find the house from the driveway! Keep your baby safe!!