My boyfriend/ Child’s father, doesn’t always match my excitement

He should have handled it better but I’ll be honest - my partner was never really interested in the ‘getting ready for bub’ He did like us two shopping & he’d get some clothes for bub when I was pregnant but when it came to unboxing, he didn’t care lol He was never rude about it though. your partner should have at least made an effort but It might be a common thing when the father just doesn’t care My boyfriend cared more about putting the cot together & the change table etc But nesting is more so a mothers thing, not so much a fathers thing I am sorry he ruined your excitement tho. ignore him & just picture how cute your future bub is going to look in all your new clothes ❤️❤️

He’s unfortunately not that different from other men. They don’t get it, but they aren’t experiencing the pregnancy with the changes either. They have no clue how exhausting and tiring it all is when baby is here so doing that kind of stuff now saves a lot of headache later.

Most men do not feel the same as women. We become mums when we are pregnant. They do not become dads until they are holding the baby and even then it can take time for them to feel things.

I think you're overreacting here tbh. Most men don't get as excited about this kind of thing as women do. My partner does ish, but he would happily just put our baby in a sleepsuit all day as its practical, he doesn't spend time choosing cute outfits, but then neither do I really. Chill and give the guy a break

My partner isn’t too bad with this stuff, but definitely not as invested as I am. He did show some attention and appreciation for the football team related things baby has. A tutu vest and an actual kit his friend gifted us for baby. But we definitely have come to the conclusion that unless it’s directly affecting him, it’s out of mind. I’m thankful for my friends, as they have been my hype team mostly!

My partner would sometimes get irritated by me showing him baby stuff all the time too 😔 it is exciting! He's a very involved father now but he just wasn't that interested in the 'stuff' ❤️❤️

I always thought my partner would be so much more excited in the lead up to having our baby but he really doesn’t show it much and I think that’s like a lot of men. Like all I want to do is go to the baby section in shops and he doesn’t show much interest or he’s not been overly fussed about her feeling her move. It does upset me a lot but I guess it’s hard for them, we go through it all and it probably doesn’t feel real for them at all till the baby is here. Try not let it get to you, I’m sure he will be so different when the baby arrives x

I think men will be men, it’s so weird sometimes to think why they aren’t excited, I don’t think it’s ok but it’s definitely a man thing to do, they just don’t get excited about things like is, where wr are more sentimental and love stuff like that men couldn’t give a toss unfortunately which is the sad truth. Hopefully he can see it upset you and try to be somewhat excited for other things next time.

@Rebecca Girl she isn’t overreacting at all my baby father was like this and still is like this, and it’s best to leave them alone. Shes going through so much with her body changing, mentally, and spiritually. So Shes NOT “overreacting” she feels that he’s off, he gave her attitude and no reaction when she wanted to share a special moment with her, and he acted like a Jackass… POINT. BLANK. PERIOD. She has EVERY RIGHT to be upset.

Did you ask him about his day first? Did you ask him how he was feeling? Maybe he just wasn’t up for it right then and there. Maybe he just wanted to unwind before getting into all of that. Men definitely don’t share the same excitement we go through during pregnancy and that’s okay, as long as he is present and attentive to your needs.

@Rebecca she isn’t overreacting at all, as a woman we get upset about things. And if a man is showing attitude and showing he’s annoyed it would naturally dim the excitement. Maybe you wouldn’t get upset about that but I guarantee you every other woman would. Her feelings are valid. And no, she shouldn’t “chill and give him a break” she’s upset that HER partner isn’t as excited because it took TWO to make the baby and that other person doesn’t seem to care

@Rebecca Why are you victim blaming?

My partner was similar he was obviously excited but the “little things” e.g clothes just doesn’t bother him so I shared it all with my mum and friends instead 😝😂 I think it’s more of a man thing 🙄

@Rebecca she isn’t choosing “cute outfits” she is talking about getting things ready for THEIR child 😑 my husband was shopping with me online for baby outfits and showing me all the ones he picked and thought were cute. He even would stop in stores to get baby stuff. How is it overreacting when it’s about THEIR child? Seriously some women

Thank you beauties for sharing some insight. It’s kind of refreshing to see that this is “typical”. I also appreciate those whom are validating my feelings. For context, he generally has been great, and shows excitement by adding things to our registry for an upcoming shower we’re having. It’s just this one situation that made me feel bad, and needed someone to talk to about it 🥰 I appreciate you all. ❤️

@Sarah calm down, Jesus lol. My fiance actually gets all gooey eyed over cute things our daughter wears, however it certainly isn't the norm for most blokes to get excited over sorting out baby clothes!

He could've had a rough day at work. Possibly taking it out on you. Next time try telling him about your excitement and invite him to join you. If he declines, just enjoy it yourself. In the end, you're in control of your own emotions and how you want to feel. Don't give that power to anyone.

I was the one at not being excited by nesting. My partner wanted to buy stuff and make a room and setting everything ready. I didn't want any of this and just planned the bare minimum. I was anxious because I had a loss before. Yet, this is something we discussed between my partner and I and we never had issues or bad way to speak to each other about it. He talked back badly to you and that's not ok. You are totally valid to be excited and wanting to share it. I would ask him what's wrong when he cools down (we can't resonate with someone that's clearly angry).