Hating my partner

I’m 6 months pregnant and my partner is currently out drinking with his friends like he has been doing weekend after weekend. I do all the house work, all the cooking and also work full time. He had the nerve to ask me to cook dinner for him and his friend because his friend is coming round to watch the football. He has also already booked 2 lads holidays for next year without consulting with me knowing we’ll have a new born. He also keeps borrowing money off me and owns me over £8000 which I’m nervous he won’t be able to give back by the time I need it to cover my SMP. I can’t sleep with the thought of that I can do so much better and why am I with him. I feel so depressed and lonely right now and don’t really know why I’m writing this, just need to vent I guess.

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Aww, you can try having a conversation with him, tell him how you feel about his behavior, there’s a lot communication can do. And try to take it easy on yourself mama, do what you can and delegate the rest to him, I mean a house you live in is your responsibility too, so should help out once in a while. Wishing you the best of luck 🤗

I can see why you’re annoyed. His life doesn’t seem to have changed/be changing in preparation for your baby at all! I’d be having a serious chat with him and outlining all the things I expect him to step up on. If he’s not going to step up, as far as I’m concerned, he could step out. I’m sorry he’s not being more considerate given that you’re growing his child. Definitely time for a serious chat, and stick to your guns! Xx

Hello, give me a message - I’m 7 months pregnant and having relationship issues - it’s quite a lonely place to be

That’s really tough girl :( My thoughts are with you❤️

You're so right that his behaviour is unacceptable!! You deserve so so much better and he needs to step up or leave. Hate that you feel depressed and lonely because of this when it sounds like you have done nothing wrong 😢. You know him best to know what has worked before and at what point he might get defensive etc but you need to mentally decide how much time and effort you're happy to put into supporting him and what you need back from him and then organise a time that you're both in a neutral mood to discuss it with him, have a back up plan of somewhere you can go if the conversation gets heated even if that just means speaking early enough that you could go to a shopping centre for a few hours or something if you don't have much of a support system nearby. Hope you get sorted

Sorry but I would leave, trust me it won’t get any better. He owes you £8000 unless he’s wealthy I don’t see you getting that money back. Leave now while you are 6 months pregnant and still have some mobility it’s alot tougher the further along you are.

This sounds tough - really sorry you’re dealing with this. He sounds like a child and not someone preparing to be a dad or preparing to support you. Very much sounds like he thinks YOU’RE having a baby not both of you. Firstly, stop lending him money - clearly can pay his own way if he can afford the pub all the time and lots of holidays. Secondly, have a very firm and clear chat with him and tell him he needs to change, and by when or he is out! You dont need to be raising him as well as a baby. Sending love 💙🩷💙🩷

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