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I am very resentful towards my husband. My daughter is 7 months and I ever since she was born, I am the primary caregiver for our baby. All of the parenting responsibilities fall on my shoulders from getting her ready for the day, to dropping/picking her up from day care to night duty. I do it all and I also work full time on top of taking care of my child. My husband works full time and does make more money than me and he does pay for the majority of our expenses. I don’t know or feel like our parenting responsibilities are fair and I have asked him many times to help with the responsibilities of taking care of the baby, but he would help for a short while and get frustrated and stop. He does play with her occasionally but that is the extent of his participation. I am on 24 hours a day 7 days a week and I rarely get a break.It’s frustrating/disappointing bc he wanted a baby so much more than I wanted one and I feel tricked bc I thought he wanted to be more involved than he actually is bc of it. I love my daughter so much and he is going to start pressuring me into having another baby very shortly but I don’t know if I can handle two kids by myself. I feel like I want a divorce bc of how resentful I have become, but I also don’t want to feel like I’m overreacting bc he does contribute more monetarily than I do and that is more than most men in relationships do. Does anyone else hold this type of resentment towards their partner?

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I experienced JUST THIS with my partner. It was so frustrating and it took me having a mental breakdown for him to fully understand how much I really needed helped. Maybe it would help to start tasking him with things and holding him accountable. For example, bath time, picking up after dinner, having him cook dinner on specific days, etc. My partner needs constant reminders which is frustrating but helps take the load off a bit. I’m sorry mama, I know how hard this is! What also helped with our situation was seeing a couples therapist. I hope this helps a bit 🤍 you are not alone!

Contributing money to his family is the bare minimum. He’s supposed to do more, in fact he should want/enjoy doing more. I wouldn’t have a second baby with him like you said you know you’ll basically be a single mother of 2 unless it improves.

The amount of money he earns means absolutely nothing if you are both working full-time. You’re both putting in equal hours a day, so baby duties should be split. Yes mama usually is the default parent, but he can do better if he wants more kids.

If you’re both working full time it should be equal! I stay home so I feel resentful also but understand he works and provides for us so I try to make it easy for him when he comes home but man it’s exhausting. This is my third baby but I remember feeling this resentment and I broke down and cried and told him either you help me or we get a divorce you choose. That worked and it’s been better ever since but you have to speak up, men aren’t mind readers.

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