MIL made me uncomfortable this morning
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@Maddie thank you 🙏🏽 it’s crazy because this the first time something like this happened. I think she’s intimidated by me because she’s head of the family and I’m the only one who doesn’t follow her lead
She’s seeing you as a rival for motherhood. Diminishing your mother figure to make her feel better, now that she is not the absolute queen anymore. It’s says all about her and nothing about you - cheers that you kept the priorities straight. Sorry that you have to deal with this…
@Fernanda thank you😩 that’s too bad because I’m not going anywhere and I told my fiancé he said “we need to talk” I said no she needs to apologize to me idc
She’s going to play the victim 100% Stay strong. I learned the harder way that sometimes we want a happy extended family life but the extended family doesn’t want the same - if you let them treat you poorly, they will keep going. She will learn from how you behave next - I suggest the grey rock method
@Fernanda grey rock method???
To “grey rock” a person involves making all interactions with them as uninteresting and unrewarding as possible. In general, this means giving short, straightforward answers to questions and hiding emotional reactions to the things a person says or does. Some people use the grey rock method with those they suspect of having narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). People with NPD may use Trusted Source others as a source of attention, manipulating them to get a specific reaction that bolsters their ego.
So basically don’t play her game or engage in her behavior afterwards. Just keep doing your duties and any comment she makes direct or indirect, just answer with short answers like “okay” and move on. Keep your emotions and thoughts to yourself and she won’t have the reward of getting under your skin. Eventually she will move on and stop bullying you. If she wants confrontation to play the victim, this will just kill her inside 😆 How are things after that comment? Is she pretending nothing happened or is making this a huge thing by being pity?
@Fernanda so I basically confronted her about what she said and how it made me feel and instead of a apology she guilt tripped me into saying basically I dont treat my step daughter as a priority which is bullsh*
@Fernanda I should of read this before I txted her 🤣
I’m sorry you have to go through this. The action she did was an indirect taunt at you for not watching kids according to her. This has nothing to do with you, some mother in laws are toxic and obnoxious. She clearly dislikes you and she chooses to display that by doing actions like this. I hope you move out soon from her house and live a peaceful life.