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It’s a long drive! But I think it will be okay if you take breaks. With my first at a month and a half, he was nursing every couple hours of the day
Be easier if you had someone to help they can’t stay in car seat very long sometimes, and if they are fussy you have to keep stopping. 50/50 if it’s easy drive. Plus you will be tired and not getting sleep be easier if you could take a bus or train
I get it. I don't think it's insane. You're off work, your fiancé might be too, family gets to meet the baby. I'd prepare for stops/breaks like others are saying. I'd also make sure he had all the vaccines he can get (and/or you get them now like the TDAP, flu, rsv). I don't know about the weather, but check the roads cause it will be Winter. I wanted to do a road trip to Idaho in January, but the roads won't be good.
Can they not come to you? That’s a really long drive for a one month old. It’s recommended they only be kept in a car seat a maximum of 2 hours within a 24 hour period.
@Mariam they both very much hate my father, my parents don’t get along neither do my grandparents,
We went to visit my parents with our son when he was only 6-7 weeks old. The drive there is usually 5 and a half hours. We did frequent stops for feedings, diapers, and just getting him out of the car seat for a while. Ended up taking more like 7 hours, but it was worth it for us.
I took my 1st born on a ride that was around 2-2.5 hours and had 1 other adult with me to help- it worked out perfectly fine. That said, in speaking with other parents and families over the past 3 years I personally wouldn’t do it again. I’ve heard too many horror stories. If it feels really important to you, my best advise is to just overly prepare… carefully plan out your stops ahead and do research on having infants in car seats or carriers for prolonged time periods (even if that seat is not actually in the car) Also I’d research what warnings signs to keep an eye out for so you can intervene immediately if needed. Also as others have said just consider germs - babies under a certain age need a spinal tap if they get sick and it’s an incredibly uncomfortable procedure. - sorry mama not trying to add worry I’d just want someone to level with me the same way.
Depends on how safe you feel with being around other people. I personally don’t want to bring my son around other people until he can get his two month old shots so I know that he is safe. I asked that anyone who wants to be around him get their tdap, Covid, and flu vaccine before that. We are even considering masks and gloves especially since it’s the season of getting sick. I would say go with your gut though if you think it’s okay then do so