Baby stage with two

If you found the baby stage really difficult with your first, did you enjoy it when/if you had a second? For context, I had a speedy labour (3hrs) with my boy, it was a real shock to the system. My post natal hospital experience was fairly traumatic, I didn’t sleep for 3 days and collapsed through exhaustion. Nurses would kind of laugh at me REALLY struggling and say “welcome to motherhood love!” He wouldn’t breastfeed, wouldn’t sleep, struggled with his weight, even feeding from a bottle was a challenge, he had reflux and would constantly spit up until about 11 months. He wouldn’t be put down and I found everything so difficult! I’ve just graduated from physio for my pelvic floor (still a work in progress) and was seeing the mental health team until about a year pp. I started to enjoy life from about 6 months and were really coming into our own now. I’m a glutton for punishment and really want 2 children but not sure I could do all that again, I’m trying to convince myself it’ll be better the 2nd time round. 😂

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Each experience is so different! I only have one and I had some pretty traumatic times and I was with the mental health team until recently but the love I have for my baby now makes me soooo excited to have another! I had times wondering what have I done but now I wouldn’t have it any other way xx

Hated the newborn stage with my first. I struggled so so much, but loved every second of it with my second 😍 I didn't have to put in any work at all, didn't even need to stand up once to rock her 😍She was so easy in comparison to the first. She was a dream baby until she turned 10 months and is now hell 🤣🤣🤣 Do it, you won't regret it 🥰 xx

I hated the toddler stage with my oldest, he didn’t take the transition well, sleepless nights didn’t bother me with my first, I could still work from when he was 3 months old but when he hit 2 my god like a different child! I struggled hard but it soon passes he’s 9 now, I did have a 2nd child 8 years later and I’m struggling more this time round, maybe age difference? (22 with my first, 31 with my 2nd) I’m Struggling with health? Or just going through what I did with my 1st but again it isn’t permanent, my oldest is the sweetest, kindest boy I’ve met, you’d never believe he was a little terror 🤣

I am a month in to 2nd baby and it has been such an easy transition this time round compared to my first! my first had reflux like yours and everyday I was stressing about his food intake etc.. but this time round it has honestly been so much easier and I am loving it even with a 16mo in the mix!

Thank you so much everyone, it seems that the general consensus is that the baby stage is better with a 2nd. I won’t be doing it yet because we need to move house and want a slightly bigger age gap but it’s all I can think about at the moment 🙃

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