Resentment

I resent my partner so much. My little one doesn't take a bottle so I have to do all the feeds and naps. He goes out and does his thing still. Which I've said is fine but I am jealous of it. He said if he was in my position never getting a break he wouldn't care at all. I'm so hurt. This then just makes me feel even more guilty for wanting a break. Does this resentment go, I just want to leave. But I'm really really hoping it passes.

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The fact he isn’t sympathising towards you will make that resentment even worse. I envy my partner sometimes , they want to go to the shop, hair cuts , see friends, their initial thought isn’t, when is baby’s next feed? When is the next nap? And I envy that so much. My partner works and I am currently on MAT leave and I have to say the lack of understanding of how difficult it is sometimes has caused a lot of arguments in our house, it’s definitely got better as time has gone on because I think my partner has realised it’s not easy. I just want to add I’m not mad at my partner for doing those normal things like getting hair cut etc I just can’t do that in the same way anymore however what I will say is my partners life has changed too, it’s not the same as it was before and I’d only need to say I’m getting my haircut today I need a break and that would be fine. You NEED break too even if it’s just half an hour to sit and do nothing. Xx

Just because you’re doing all the feeding, doesn’t mean your partner can’t help. Get him to take on more of the housework. Or get him to change the nappies. Sometimes at night my husband will bring baby to me to feed (in bed) then take her back to her bed and settle her. So I don’t even wake up properly and he’s able to share the nighttime duties. Sometimes men don’t see stuff. So maybe just make it clear what stuff needs to be his responsibility because you’re so consumed with feeding. My partner is always happy to help but does say he finds it hard to see what needs doing, but is happy for me to ask / tell him!

Im in a similar position..i also hope the feeling goes away becuase everyday its just getting worse and i feel like I'm not even myself anymore, just this person who is hateful.. I don't even bother bringing it up as will just be an argument, and he'll say hes got work blah blah, he helps out a bit here and there but it really amounts to nothing.. I know they have work, but my point is how have their lives changed at all then since we've had a baby, because mine has completely. Sorry not helping you but i know how you feel 😅

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