Kissing my baby

I’m not sure why it’s so uncomfortable to say to someone even close family, to not kiss our babies, I’m the same. In the past I’ve just said ‘oh we don’t do kisses yet’ or something along those lines. You could always pretend to be on the phone and give a little wave to avoid your neighbour 😅 not sure if that would work well! X

@Amy I was on the phone this evening when I returned home, hadn’t even turnt my car off and she was peering in the window at baby 😩🫣 it’s obsessive!! I’m gunna be brave and next time she comes over to say hi which I’m sure will be tomorrow I’ll just say oh me and her dad were walking last night and have decided to say no kisses from anyone now with the winter months and her starting nursery soon we just want to protect her, I feel so worried but she’s my baby I need to protect her I guess xx

Oh nooo! 🤦🏻‍♀️😂 if she an older lady? I feel like lots of the older generation always touch/ kiss babies that they don’t even know. I can’t tell you the amount of people that have touched my little boy, weird to me? Yes brave it, you got this!!! X

I feel you! My neighbour was like this Then one day I jumped back from her and went oh don't come near she may have Hand foot and mouth 😅 since then she hasn't really touched her.

@Amy yeah she’s late 50’s i reckon.. I’m just feeling so upset over it tonight, feeling like a failure of a mum for allowing it :(

@Emma that’s a great idea!! I will try to talk to her because I’m actually feeling quite upset tonight over it and telling myself I’m a bad mum for allowing it and feel like I’ve put her at risk. I’ve been so unwell all week as has her dad but we have managed to prevent her from catching our illness with how careful we have been but I’m letting just a neighbour be so close to her :(

@Emma this is a brilliant idea 😂😭😂

Don’t feel like a failure! Honestly, it’s just so uncomfortable for some of us. You never know how someone is going to react and start conflict etc. you’re doing great xx

Don't feel like a failure at all!! It's really bloody hard. I went to malvern flower show when my baby was 3 months old and I swear I counted about 40 people who stopped and tried to touch my baby. It was ruining my day as I couldn't just walk round but not once did I have the balls to tell them off, I just had to position myself so they couldn't reach her. On 2 separate occasions, 2 women kissed my girl on the cheek nesr her lips before I had a chance to react. My neighbour smoked a vape in the hallway and I didn't say anything I just walked out. Each time I look back and I'm like ffs I wish I said something but then I also know these people are dumbf*cks and they probably wouldn't change anyway

Don't beat yourself up about it. I'm sure most of us if not all have been in a situation like this when someone approached our baby. I was in a queue once and distracted cos was waiting for my name to be called and before I knew it this man next to me was holding my baby's hand and kissed it. I was fuming but it was like my words were stuck in my throat and didn't know what to say. But then beat myself up about it. We can just learn from these situations and now you know you can speak to her and tell her to back off lol politely. You got this. Love your idea @Emma definitely using that one 😆