Stay at home moms

Hi everyone! So I go back to work in March and unfortunately my husband and I do not have any help from family to watch the baby. Daycare is extremely expensive in my area and tbh I don’t trust daycares due to all the horror stories I see. My husband and I will have to work opposite schedules (him on nights and me on days) and we will barely see each other only on the weekends. Nights totally throws off his routine as well. I was looking to see if maybe we can cut back on certain things so I can just stay home and he can maybe work more overtime hours. I’m worried with the different schedules that we will loose love and affection for each other. We have been together 10 years now and made it through hard times. But I was considering just staying home instead. Any recommendations on how to be a stay at home mom and cut costs? This economy is so pricey now. Also, is it worth it to be a stay at home mom? I feel like I will feel guilty putting all the “work” on my husband while I just stay home. I don’t mind being the parent who cooks, cleans and cares for the baby and house. Thoughts?

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Only you know what will work for you. If the money gain is enough for the time away from son and cost in childcare My husband would rather NOT pay for childcare and let me be home with our children making memories for the cost of the childcare vs what I would earn. This is just what we decided and cut back accordingly. I do miss having my own money but it’s worth it for our over all family life x

I don’t have much advice, but can share my situation with you which may help with your decisions. Hubby works 2pm-10.30pm (later if he does overtime). I work 4 days a week 7am-4pm, later if I need to get something finished. I’m usually asleep when he gets home, and he’s asleep when I get up. If hubby wakes up in the morning while I’m getting ready, he will come see us for 20 odd o minutes so he can see and spend even just a little time with Bub. Our son goes to a family daycare 3 days a week and my MIL has him for the other day I work. Hubby needs to sleep until mid-late morning so he’s unable to care for our son while I work. During the week I’m still the one to take care of all bubs needs, tidy the house and cook dinner. It took some getting used to, but we are making it work. We have started going out to dinner once a month to dedicate time to us and our relationship. I know you mentioned not having help from family, so hopefully being a SAHM is an option for you

I feel you! My mat leave ends in a few months and we can’t get into any daycare (not that I really want to do daycare since I’m nervous of it), and are on the hunt for a live-out nanny but no luck yet. I had a family friend suggest to actually quit my current job and start my own home daycare. I personally don’t wish to, but is great for people that can especially since daycare is in such high demand! And then you get to stay home all day with your LO too🙂

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