Car seat

I always end up driving around to get my daughter to sleep x

Just to make you aware if you aren’t already, babies should not be in car seats for longer than 20/30 mins at a time. You’re not awful! My son only settled on my dad for a good few weeks, just be aware of the risks surrounding car seats, positional asphyxiation happen so quickly! Alternatively, have you tried using a wrap? That helped a tonne with my son’s reflux! He had 6 weeks with extreme reflux, multiple doctors trips and there was simply nothing that helped other than the wrap, pram or lying on my legs in an upright position! Just to add, it’s nothing you’re doing wrong, you’re doing great mama!

@Charlotte firm what I have heard the 20-30 min in the car seat is the first 4 weeks, then up to 2 hours at a time after that

Same here .. my baby take naps in car seat And you don’t need to feel bad for anything I was feeling the same before But what we can do Even am doing co sleeping.. I don’t feel nothing wrong in that . If am happy my baby is happy nothing matter

@Rebecca birth to 6 weeks is 20/30 mins, this baby is 3 weeks old however so the 20/30 min rule applies! X

I don’t think you should feel guilty for not holding her but it’s very dangerous for a baby especially that young to sleep in the car seat when out of the car.

@Charlotte this depends on how old your baby is. My baby is almost 5 months and the guideline is no longer than 2hrs at at time. For a baby that's say 2 months it's like 90minutes

I think you should try gripe water for the gas just a little bit, it doesn’t make you a bad mum at all. If your baby is comfortable in a car seat, try using a baby bouncer and put blankets to make it comfortable and tight. Maybe your baby likes the feeling of being in something tight and cuddled up like how your womb would’ve been. X

@Rebecca this lady has specified that her child is only 3 weeks old

I agree with @Charlotte, it is very dangerous and they should only spend a short period of time in their car seats, one search on the internet will tell you that. Yes recommendations change as they get older but even in a 7 month old baby it’s risky with positional asphyxiation. Of course it gets less as they do get older but it can in theory happen to any child. You aren’t a bad mum, having a baby is really hard and I’m guilty of doing things which would be seen as ‘bad’. We had terrible issues with acid reflux, I would put the tv on to distract my little boy so he would have some of his bottle, lots would have something to say about that but unless you have a baby with silent reflux, nobody will ever ever understand how challenging it is. Unfortunately for us the only thing that worked was medication. It gets better. Xx

Have you tried baby wearing?

Do you have a next to me crib? If so you can adjust it so one side is higher than the other which can help with reflux. Please don’t feel like a bad mum

Have a look at this from The Lullaby Trust. You are not a bad mum at all, you just want what’s best for your baby xx https://www.lullabytrust.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/car-seat-factsheet-2023.pdf