Mothering my husband

I am so sick of having to mother my husband. I have a 7 month old and I’m busy enough. The last thing I want to do is have to stop mid washing dishes because to make sure my husband is out of bed. I’m tired of all responsibilities being on me. And then when I try to have a calm and respectful conversation with him, he says “all I did was lay down” and gives me a thumbs up and says “sure” when I ask if he can think about me. He always acts like this. It is so frustrating. Truthfully I just want out of my marriage but I don’t have a job outside of it. I shouldn’t have to yell across the house multiple times to make sure he’s doing what he’s supposed to meanwhile my mind is racing of everything I need to do. His attitude makes it worse and really hurts my feelings.

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Ok so there's a lot of "Christian" marriage advice that's very bad. And this idea of love or respect is one of the biggest. To love is to also respect and vice versa. Personally I try to avoid the word altogether, because I don't understand it well. If he's consistently not waking up for work, and he's not got a good reason? Warn him that you are not going to be waking him up anymore. Let him take the consequences of being late to work. My own husband sleeps about 4-6hrs a night and then naps for 1-2 hours before his 2nd job. This is just because of the work schedules, so I have made alarms for waking him up. Because sometimes he's so tired he'll sleep through his multiple alarms. But that's very different from just being lazy! I would focus on yourself and the baby, and try to get your head straight. With a 7 month old, you are still finding rhythm to your days. Highly recommend Dr John Deloney show on YouTube and Sheila Gregiore's blog. Because the Bible properly interpreted, is common sense and healthy.

Agree with above. If you don’t want to baby him then don’t. Tell him you’re tired of it and you’re gonna stop doing what you’re doing and if he doesn’t do it himself that he’s gonna face the consequences of it like not asking up in time. I think yall could benefit talking to your church pastors or some friends that could pray with yall and maybe find some people to help counsel you

@Gabrielle I guess the issue I’m facing is if I don’t baby him, I don’t get help. If I do, at least I get some help but it’s so frustrating for me to nag at him constantly. I’ve considered stopping everything - cooking for him, cleaning, etc. But then my son and I just suffer.

Yeah I wouldnt stop everything don’t be petty because that’s not good and not godly at all. But like waking him up if it’s for something you could stop. Something like that. I would also sit down and talk with him. Because like okay look I don’t like doing this I don’t like having another child and explain to him the problems and some solutions as was. And hopefully with time things will get better

His passive response also tells me he does not like you 'mothering' him. Our husbands are not our children n will never be. As such any attempts to do anything like it on either part tend to backfire. Treat him as an adult - capable of making decisions and living with the consequences. I can only suggest talking about the issues, chores or daily tasks etc then whatever you agree/ conclude stick to that and don't overstep by doing what you agree is his task unless of course you just want to.

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