Am I overreacting?

Yeh that is abit weird in my opinion, I would certainly be bringing it up with my husband, seems abit comfortable xx

See, I don't think he's done anything wrong or weird there, and I wouldn't be upset by this as my partner says lovely things to me too. I think this is YOUR insecurities here, as maybe she is a nice person to work with and he's told her that, that's nice! I had a brief flirt with the guy who did the deal on my new car today, I then came home and told my fella about it 😅. He wasn't flirting though (your bloke) he was being nice. Oh, and why exactly are you invading his privacy by checking his phone?

Meh, I wouldn't be that bothered tbh. Firstly, why are you looking through his phone? Has he given you reasons to be suspicious of him? Do you both let each other go through your messages? I've definitely been described by work colleagues as a ray of sunshine. Someone once said I was so enthusiastic sometimes they had to look away as it was like staring into the sun 😂 no one was flirting with me. This comment alone wouldn't be a red flag to me at all. Sounds like they're friends and you're insecure about it.

I would be upset too? Hes making the effort to reassure her but isnt really supporting you when your going through the most emotionally challenging time raising his baby - you definitely will he a ray of sunshine especially to your baby maybe just have a chat with him as it most likely is nothing but its not nice complentling other women when hes not making you feel the best 🤍

I think the first issue is that you feel you should be going through his phone. You either have serious trust issues in your relationship or major insecurities.

Hormones! But what is your gut telling you?? Always listen to your gut girl ok? Here if you need a rant! Men suck x

I think the issue is not that he's said this too her, as that alone shouldn't be a problem, your partner should be able to support and help a friend regardless of gender but more that you feel unsupported by your partner... maybe you feel insecure about it because he hasn't been showing you such understanding during a time you should be going through together. Maybe this is what you need to be addressing with him? I'm sorry you're struggling though, the only thing that will help is communication, otherwise you could spiral from one little thing and spoil the whole relationship xxxx

@Maddy Much more eloquently put x

Little Ray of sunshine 😅😅😅 If a man said that to me there would be two thoughts: A) if he was same age as me I would think he was condescending B) An older man who is looking after me like a little sister I don't think you have anything to worry about on this one sweet x

I work in a car showroom. Most my colleagues have been men for the last 10 years I text them constantly with memes and football chat, customers etc and never over stepped the mark with any of them. We spend so many hours together more than the average working team because our hours usually over 50 a week are long so you form strong bonds. I even talk to them on the phone a lot, now on mat leave even meet up with them, but my partner knows them all and trusts me completely. Car showrooms are known for affairs it’s actually rife but there are those of us who genuinely just gel with the opposite sex and nothing is happening.