Impatient and bad mum?

I’m a FTM and i just feel so lost. So babe is 5 weeks. She’s combi fed and has been on same formula for 2 weeks now. I EBF for 2 weeks and she was always fussy and screaming all the time. I thought it’s all normal part and parcel of the newborn experience. All her awake windows were crying. Switch to combi and that seemed to fill her up more and seemed a bit more happy. Short lived before it all started intensifying again. I am adamant I don’t want to change the formula because that might not be the underlying issue and there should be an adjustment period right? Well things have never improved if anything each day is worse. I think the crying during and after every feed is like a pain. I’ve tried infacol, changing bottles, changing teats but does it mean it’s time to change formula? If u add up the crying in a day it well exceeds 3 hours every day. Few people have said that’s not normal. But when u read other posts on here or threads online people say oh yes that is normal! I have no idea what to believe. Am I just not patient enough or is there something not right? Obviously will speak to HV but I feel like I’ll just get fobbed off with the “yeah that’s normal for newborns” I’m exhausted and feeling really low about it all

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My little one is the same, he went a good 3 days of just non stop crying unless he was feeding or sleeping. I took him to the gp and in the nicest way possible he basically said your a first time mum and you don’t have experience with babies and this is just very normal 😅 basically I’m over reacting 😂 he checked his chest, belly etc and all was okay. He said the most it could be is colic but even that he said is a guessing game because babies do cry and cry for no reason sometimes..you are not a bad mum at all or being impatient! It’s bloody hard this being parents and raising a little one especially when you’re a first time mum.. if you are really concerned (you know your baby) try switching formulas and see how it goes or stick it out for another week or so and see how she gets on.. good luck 🤞🏻❤️

I’m in exactly the same boat and feel so low about it too. Do you have someone else at home to help you? We had a horrendous day yesterday where I just couldn’t cope with the constant screaming. Today, we’re attempting to do the child care in shifts. Husband is doing the morning, I’m doing the afternoon. He’s taken him out of the house (in the rain 😑) to just give me a break. Hoping it will help each of us to feel calmer. Is that an option for you?

Really reassuring to know it’s not just me. this is what I gathered anyway but as a FTM your never sure what’s “normal” and what is not. Always seems to be that everyone’s newborns are peacefully drinking bottle then falling asleep and when awake just chilling for a small amount of time then falling back asleep and mines nothing like that 🥲 Update - today I have tried the elevated side lying bottle feeding position & the baby wearing in a sling and so far so good I have had a very content and peaceful baby since 9am so 🤞 Wishing you all the best and thank you for being there today xx

Try changing her milk to a comfort milk. We use the kendamil comfort milk and it’s made such a difference!

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