AITA?

My partners parents live abroad so we don't see them often (maybe twice a year for a week or so) but when we do they stay over here. His parents and I can't speak due to no speaking the same language. I have ADHD and anxiety which makes it hard for me when people stay over, but I do my best to accommodate and they stay with us most of the time they are in the country. My partners Mum has made things much harder by over stepping all my boundaries since our son was born. Commenting that I'm feeding him wrong, saying my milk is not good enough, going against us if we ask her not to do a certain thing (example, she held hot coffee over our sons head when he was newborn and shook her head and kept it over his head when we confronted her). When our son was a bit older she kept tickling him even when he told her "no". Always got her phone either in our sons face, or sits on Facebook. She's always talking over me too...it's so isolating because I just have to sit quietly and be present whilst everyone else talks. This is just a few of many things. My partner has never stuck up for me and I've always been expected to just put up with it everytime they visit. They're coming again on Halloween, kind of a last minute decision due to flight prices but I didnt get a say in it. I told my partner I planned (before they booked flights) to take our son to see some Halloween lights as its the first year he will understand, I'd be gone no more than an hour. My partner is complaining because I've said I want to go without his Mum because she fills me with stress and I just want that hour with my son without any issues, it's been planned for so long. Am I an asshole?

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Go without his mother. You cannot have people come in YOUR home and put their rules and stress on you. Just live your life as usual. No one deserves that you stress yourself for them.

In what world are you the asshole? I’m concerned that you’d even think that to begin with, what kind of number has your partner done on you?? 😳 Of course you aren’t being unreasonable! This trip was planned before they booked flights and you knew they were coming. You’re also only spending 1 HOUR away as well, Jesus Christ your partner is being a complete drama llama if he’s railing up about that 😵‍💫 You don’t have a MIL problem, you have a partner problem. The fact your partner doesn’t stand up for you speaks volumes. This will bite you in the bum later as you never dealt with it from the start. Don’t be surprised if it ends up being the cause of you breaking up. You can only take so much disrespect.

No, you’re not. Go without her. You can spend time with your son alone when you want. Just because she is visiting you doesn’t mean she has to be with you and your baby all the time. ❤️

Go without her, non of them can stop you from doing anything with your son. I'm also very petty so the next time, your husband or MIL say "no" to something keep doing it, and be like well this is how "MILs name" listens to our child when he is saying no he doesn't wanna be touched she doesn't respect his personal space of his body.

If you don't establish boundaries right now, I'm afraid it will get much worse once your babies are older. No, you aren't the asshole in the situation... don't let them tell you otherwise.

Definitely not the asshole! You're entitled to go about your life and do things with your child even though they're visiting x

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