Am I Overreacting?
So my little girl has favoured her dad for over a year now, and the last few months, she's become obsessive and I can't do anything. It's always "I want daddy!".
This morning he revealed that at bedtime (which she won't let me do), if he can't get her do something like brush her teeth or put her nappy on he tells her he's going to leave and mummy can sort you out.
I told him off for saying that because it's using me as a threat and creates negative associations. His response was that I'm being silly and he's not saying it in a negative way. I tried to explain that she's 2 and takes everything literally, but apparently I'm being stupid and overreacting.
Am I being oversensitive on this?
It also sticks in my mind that when she first started nursery just over a year ago it was an upsetting time for her (and me) and I heard him say to her "did nasty mummy leave you at nursery again". 😭
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You're not over reacting. It is creating the negative. I def think sit down and have a chat about it again. Regardless of if he believes it creates a negative, if he knows its upsetting you then he should stop when asked
Not overreacting at all. You're right. He shouldn't be saying that. X
Not over reacting at all, sounds like he’s enjoying being the favourite and making you bad cop The nursery thing is particularly horrible, I definitely would of made him do drops offs after that x
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Hello 💕 I don’t think you’re overreacting at all. You’re absolutely right regarding the negative association. He’s using you as the ‘bad cop’ in this instance and it’s not fair. You both need to be on the same page in order to be able to parent effectively. This kind of parenting from your partner could lead to unwanted behaviour in the future, for example; your daughter could try and play you off against each other knowing that dad is a soft touch. I’d speak to your partner about this as it could potentially lead to arguments in the future. I hope you get sorted. Xx