Yeah this feels like very inconsiderate and careless behaviour on his part
@Alicia and it’s not like he’s hurting the baby or being aggressive in that way, but I know he’s tired. He’s kind of dead pan and is stressed out with work and life. I just don’t know how to approach it.
@Cheziel I'm sure that you're tired too, but you are still loving with your son. I'm so sorry your husband is like this. It breaks my heart. 🙏❤️🙌
@Katie thank you for the validation 😭 I just keep thinking we have different temperaments, but it breaks me. Just not sure how to reach him :( I talked to him about it and he didn’t say anything back.
Maybe you can both attend a parenting class together? Sometimes hearing the effects of not being a present parent from someone else is more effective than you saying it yourself!
@Cheziel he’s an adult and a dad. He’s been a dad for a couple months already. The baby isn’t waiting around for him to grow up and become the dad that the baby deserves. I’d just tell him straight what his role is now in baby’s life and he needs to step up.
You don’t need to deliver the message in a gentle and careful way. The more direct the better for this type of thing imo, you need to speak up for your child
I would not let anyone handle my baby if they act that way. If the caregiver, whether it’s dad or grandparents, does not want to bond with my baby, then they do not get to spend time with my baby.