Husband and baby

Not sure if I’m just being emotional or stuff. But my husband, baby, and I are sick and we have the day off. When my husband takes care of the baby he’s on his phone and then makes him do tummy time and doesn’t console him or encourage him even when he screaming from the top of his lungs. And when picks him up I feel like it’s really fast. Hes taking care of the baby but he so aggressive and doesn’t talk to him or explain to him things. He doesn’t think that the baby understands anything and doesn’t feel like our moods or talking will make a difference. Even though I have to suck out his snot or have him do tummy time, I try to go his pace and comfort him as much as possible. He’s only 2.5 months and it breaks my heart to see the way he handles our baby. I’d rather just take care of himself by myself, but he insist on helping to “help me out”. But it just makes me so sad.

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I would not let anyone handle my baby if they act that way. If the caregiver, whether it’s dad or grandparents, does not want to bond with my baby, then they do not get to spend time with my baby.

Yeah this feels like very inconsiderate and careless behaviour on his part

@Alicia and it’s not like he’s hurting the baby or being aggressive in that way, but I know he’s tired. He’s kind of dead pan and is stressed out with work and life. I just don’t know how to approach it.

@Cheziel I'm sure that you're tired too, but you are still loving with your son. I'm so sorry your husband is like this. It breaks my heart. 🙏❤️🙌

@Katie thank you for the validation 😭 I just keep thinking we have different temperaments, but it breaks me. Just not sure how to reach him :( I talked to him about it and he didn’t say anything back.

Maybe you can both attend a parenting class together? Sometimes hearing the effects of not being a present parent from someone else is more effective than you saying it yourself!

@Cheziel he’s an adult and a dad. He’s been a dad for a couple months already. The baby isn’t waiting around for him to grow up and become the dad that the baby deserves. I’d just tell him straight what his role is now in baby’s life and he needs to step up.

You don’t need to deliver the message in a gentle and careful way. The more direct the better for this type of thing imo, you need to speak up for your child

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