You need a date night together
leave home for whole day like go somewhere or come home at night. and tell him to stay at home all day just let him struggle alone with everything and only then he will realize. trust me.
When he sees your doing your own thing and not caring what he says he will eventually give up because he will see you dont care what he says you know what you do he's not there to see it and when u get a chance to lie in bed do it I do it all the time now after 3 years of going nonstop I finally broke
Fuck I absolutely feel you here hey!! I just ignore and carry on doing what I do best and just shove his shit to the side and shrug it off as his own problem. Like I actually have such selective hearing now cos I had to learn to block a lot of stuff out. Only because I have more important things to worry/stress about and it’s a waste of time for me to feed into his negative traits. This is not advice at all. Just here to let you know you’re not alone and I understand how fucked and low this makes you feel 🫶🏽