Just need to vent idk

I don’t know where to put this but here we go. My husband got frustrated or upset with me because he offered me his lunch knowing I hadn’t eaten yet today and for me to heat it up while we were at his haircut appointment with our son. I chose not to because I figured I would be fine until we got food. I was in a bit of a mood on the drive home for being hungry and he felt like I blew him off when he was trying to lighten the mood in the car because my son was also upset because he was tired and hungry & didn’t understand that the food we got needed a fork so it’s hard to eat in the car. I think we were both overstimulated but because of his response I felt like I ruined the whole car ride and day. This whole situation is unfair to me. If he has a attitude, he can sit around and mope and have the attitude all day, no matter if someone’s trying to make him feel better or not, but I do it and now I’m the bad guy. Said I never listen to him. I never listen cause I didn’t wanna eat in the middle of the haircut appointment like I don’t know it didn’t sit right with me and I thought I would’ve been fine until we got home and now it’s an issue and I just never do anything right and it hurts. Thank you if you read this far, I know it was a lot & probably confusing.

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Only thing I can say is I would not eat at a hairdressers appointment either, but maybe eat before you go places so you aren’t hungry and he doesn’t have to offer

@Samantha I didn’t expect us to be out as long as we were. I get up at 6:30am to get myself and my son ready to pick him up from work but today we did extra running around after picking him up and then he wanted to go straight to his appointment

Girl, I would just make it a practice of eating regardless if you know you’re gonna be out all day or not packed yourself something or make sure you eat before you go. I am a mom myself. I get up at six every day. My daughter goes to school by seven. I’m now just getting home

@Samantha Monday through Thursday I eat when I get to my college before my classes but yea Fridays are always different and today went downhill fast

Oh, I get it. I’ve been running all day. I went to the doctors office. I didn’t have breakfast then I came back at 11:30 had a sandwich then I went to an interview then I got home about 3:30. Still haven’t had dinner 🍲

You didn’t ruin anything he added things to the list which is stressful enough after being up so early and your routine was thrown off all he had to do was being patient and understanding and get you guys properly feed after the appointment. You did nothing wrong! He clearly just expects you to push through and he’s not holding space for your needs which is a red flag! Especially when he can pout like a man child all day but has double standards on you. I’m sorry you had to go through that.

@Lyss thank you and I agree it feels like a double standard. He did apologize for how he reacted and for making it sound like he was trying to control me (telling me to eat his lunch at the appointment to hold me over until we got food after) but yea his reaction only made things worse

I know the feeling going through he same

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