Tips on living day to day

Hey all - my husband and I are going through a rough patch. Started during pregnancy when he shared he didn’t feel he was in love with me anymore and hasn’t been for a few years. At first I suspected there was someone else but I’m quite content there isn’t. I think it’s more related to a general depression he’s going through as he shares he’s not happy across his life. So I’m in a limbo just now. We’re sticking together through maternity leave because it makes financial sense but it can’t go on forever like this. In my head, me going back to work marks when we need to make a decision on the way forward. It’s a shame because we’ve been together for 13 years, since I was 18. I’m looking for any advice from others who have experienced something similar. How do you live day by day while you’re also learning how to be a mother for the first time - and really do want some kind of long term security/stability for you and your child. Thanks!

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Me and my husband are also going our separate ways. Today is suppose to be move out day but talk is cheap. I would say prepare yourself for anything while you’re at work if he will be watching the baby during those times. we decided to start daycare for our one year-old many of our problems were based around him going out while I was at work and dragging her along with him everyone situation is different but I’m praying for you

I’ve been there too and sometimes it creeps up still even when my first born is 3 yrs old n baby is 9 months now. It’s love has several phases , and over time we become comfortable and safe and the initial obsession or oust wears off, then it’s time to work on ourselves and heal our childhood traumas that make us insecure and act out of fear towards each other . It takes consistent learning how to peacefully n lovingly communicate and learn to identify and express our feelings and needs . Personally I’d like for our children to have and see a loving lasting marriage from us and it’s hard work coming from both of us having similar childhood traumas from our parents who were emotionally neglectful and mostly absent from home due to working overtime and then both got divorced and never really healed from that themselves . 💚🫂

My kids father and I been knowing each other since 15 but wasn't serious at the time and as years went on and we was adults we got back together and we have been together for about 9 or ten years with 4 kids together. My baby daddy and I are both 35. We moved from Louisiana to Arizona because he had a few family here but majority of his family is in Louisiana. All my family is in Louisiana. We have been living in AZ for about 6 years now. Came here for better life, opportunities and just a change of scenery. We had a rough relationship and 3 years ago he decided he doesn't wanna be with me but we continued to live together in because financially reasons and we don't want our kids growing up with us apart. It's hard but we make it work and sometimes it feels like we together and others we not. Almost like an open relationship

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