Why is it so difficult to make mum friends?!

I have been meeting other mums to find suitable playdates for my son and I feel defeated. Mum 1. Has 2 girls that are misbehaved and bullies, although they are nice to my son because I am mummy's friend. But I didn't like to see how they treat other children and last time my son started copying their behaviour so I may stop seeing them. Mum2. She behaves like a frenemy and is the jealous type of person. Her son is great and gets along beautifully with our son... but she would give backhanded compliments and make weird comments that make me want to avoid her. Mum 3. Lovely mum but her son is non verbal and never wants to play with any child. Mum 4. I love hanging out with the mum but her son is aggressive, steals toys, hits, pushes, shouts... I have to be constantly stopping fights between them. I feel defeated.
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Same here ☹️

So hard

1. Meh, I wouldn't want my child associated with bullies. Your child may be painted with the same brush. 2. I'd ignore everything she said. So long as the children are getting along. You could even order to have just the child over so she can have some her time. Then you don't have to deal with her and your child still gets to have a lovely play date. 3. I'd keep them. It can be difficult having a non verbal child and making friends/mum friends. If you both get on id nourish that friendship. Your child can also learn how other different children play. 4. In time they may learn to play nicely. Everything is a learning opportunity for them being so young. But oh my it's way harder in ways you wouldn't have even imagined 😅 Keep at it though. It'll be worth it. It's like kissing frogs to find your price but with a twist haha

Same.

I’m tired. I don’t need mom friends if it’s not easy and drama free, we’ll just go to mommy and me classes and stick to small talk.

@Bryar OK. First, a non verbal child is NOT like down syndrome. I allow my son to be with that child, I love spending time with the mum, my son doesn't want to. It is not about accepting differences. My son wants to play with children. 👀 Every time we visit this boy, my son cries because he feels the other kid doesn't want to play with him. That is how he sees things. He feels rejected. We already explained him it's not about him but that the other child doesn't talk or interact with anyone. In a few years from now, maybe they could play or spend time together depending on how things are. But you tell me... How many nonverbal friends do you keep as an adult?

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