this is showing that when you emotionally affected when something/someone is absent that means you’ve made an idol out of it and have to just learn how to replace the feeling it gives you with affirmations or hobbies and stuff like that even hobbies can be idols but your emotions are valid just gotta work through how to deal with them effectively and find balance in your desires and needs🙌🏾❤️🔥 you don’t feel anything outside of yourself to make you feel a certain way, all that is extra and an add on🙌🏾 so time away from your son can give you time for self reflection and just time for yourself that we don’t know we need sometimes
I’m totally in the same situation rn. We split up a year ago, he has a gf and this year is the first year we’re splitting holidays. I’m mainly okay with it because I honestly still hate him and this year I’m getting our daughter for all of the major holidays but I can’t imagine how tough next year is going to be. It seems unfair to give him a big holiday like Christmas Eve & morning when I’m the one who has her most of the time and he never tries to make it 50/50