Getting out the house

I used to have extreme guilt about leaving my son to do literally anything, including grocery shopping. It took me months to realize that I didn’t feel like a person anymore, that I just felt like a constant caregiver and partner. My son was 8 months old when my partner and I finally went on a date after having him and I worried the whole time, I kept texting my MIL to ask how little man was doing. Now my sons almost 2 and I was able to leave him with his dad all night when I got the chance to spend some time at the bar with my siblings during a reunion. I don’t think there’s any ONE right time, it’s just what feels right for YOU and the steps you wanna take over time. Figure out if you’d be comfortable spending a few hours away from him, then decide what you need to ask for to feel comfortable. It’s perfectly okay to take some time away from your baby to be able to decompress a little, or it’s okay not to be ready yet, or you can be ready but need lots of pictures, or maybe you wont

It can be different for everyone, just ask yourself what would make YOU the happiest. Because believe it or not, that happy feeling does actually make a difference in caring for your baby. If you’re happy and less stressed, they do actually feel the difference

My little girl is 2 1/2 months old. I also feel so guilty but slowly learning to leave her even if it’s just for a quick grocery trip. Let me tell you, as much as we don’t want to leave them, it’s so needed for US. I was gone for 30 minutes just to go down the street to get a few items for dinner and when I came back I didn’t realize how much I needed those 30 mins! It’s a little recharge so that we could continue. I think you should definitely do it. Even if it’s for an hour and you have to leave early. You’ll appreciate some time away and with friends. 💓

Who do you plan on leaving him with?

OMG! My partner and I were just talking about this. I’ve been having really bad postpartum anxiety and my partner suggested I go out with my friends to relax, but I feel like I will get more anxiety doing that specially with flu season here I feel like exposing myself and my son is only 6 weeks. I do get that I need some decompress time but maybe when he is like 3months for me. To each its own, if you feel like you need it, then do it!!

I was planning on leaving him with my MIL it’s her first grandson and I trust her with him but again there’s that guilt I mean I know at the end of the day he won’t even remember but it’s still there. Since I’m the only one who knows how to soothe him and like what if he knows she’s not me and doesn’t stop crying I feel like a horrible mom for wanting to get away though

The first time I was away from our daughter, she was 3 months old. I was in my friends wedding so I was away from her for most of the day, and I was an absolute nervous wreck to leave! But it felt good to have some fun and then race back home to her. Let yourself enjoy time away in small increments to start, and you'll be glad you did!

I went out in oct it was hard I called every 20 mins but it gets easier and I’m always with my son

I left my 4Month old when I had to go to a kid free wedding. The whole time i was texting everyone to tell me how he was and i demanded pictures 😅 I felt guilty cause I didn't want to go to the wedding