Stillborn at 35 weeks

I’m so sorry for your loss

My heart feels for you especially. I'm so sorry that this happened 💐

I’m so sorry for you loss. 🩷

I'm so sorry 💔

I'm sorry for what you are going through. Do not blame yourself. You did as much as you can. It must be so hard. Thoughts are with you xx

I'm so so sorry. Just know this is not your fault. Doctors are not educating moms enough on baby's movement. Did they ever ask you to count kicks? It's so important and I don't think doctors are asking moms to do it. It is so frustrating. I'm sending you a huge hug. This is so hard. Your baby's life was meaningful and important. Her life mattered.

So sorry for your loss. You will meet her again one day ❤️ may she rest in peace in God's arms

I’m so sorry for your loss😭😭

I'm so sorry

Firstly I am so so sorry you’re experiencing this💔 my girl was still born at 39 weeks last year so I know how much it hurts. Please don’t blame yourself, easier said than done, trust me I know. You gave your baby a safe warm environment and you’re all they ever knew. Don’t feel you have to be strong for ANYONE! break down if you need to, let that hurt hurt and feel every emotion. Do not hide or cover anything over as it only makes it harder in the long run. You’ll probably feel numb for a while, I know I did. I never got any answers but opted for nearly every test they offered. I hope you do get some answers, that little bit of closure may help you. Please message me if and when you need to. Also please report and take things further if you need to for them people you feel never listened be your babies voice ❤️ although the hospital should run some checks their end as to what happened and if it was anything they done/missed. I’m sending so much love and strength through this awful time

@Aubrey Nothing was talked about with a specific number of counts per day, just asked me if I was feeling movement, and that was both pregnancies. I didn't have any of the issues I had with my first girl, which is what makes this harder.

@Kas I'm on my way to the hospital now, and I'm definitely talking to them about all of my issues with my care. My entire team had switched without warning. I asked questions every visit. Any test result I got that came back looking wonky I researched and brought to their attention. It was always "everything is normal," or "we'll monitor it over time." But they had not one issue asking me if I wanted to do another c section (first was emergency), since I only had a 30% chance of delivering naturally. All I can do is cry and think about how to handle these arrangements. I'm fading in and out of numbness and breaking down in little moments. He and I are going to be releasing balloons for her soon, and I'll be framing her feet and hand prints.

I’m from the UK so don’t know how it works where you are but if you can get a hand/feet moulding/cast they’re really nice to have. My hospital gave me a ‘memory’ box too. If she’s born with hair as for a piece to be cut to keep also. Spend as much time as you wish to with her, we could only manage about 24 hours before it became unbearable. Everyone is different but they’re just a few things we did. You will always look for someone to blame even if you have no answers, it might not be anything they’ve done or missed it could just be one of those unfortunate things. If they had no reason to ask for a c section that’s why they wouldn’t, if everything seemed ok throughout. But I pray you get some answers and you get some sort of healing. I hope your induction goes as smoothly as possible and you get all the support you wish for

@Aubrey they tell you to track movements and you get In Your own pattern. My girl was still born at 39 2 days and up until the night before I’d never had reduced movement. There was never any reason for doctors or myself to think there was anything wrong. She was 7lb 11 and fully perfectly developed. I’ve learnt since losing her that unfortunately for whatever reason sometimes there just are no answers for this awful thing that happens and it’s devastating

@Kas none of my doctors with any of my pregnancies ever told me to track movements or count kicks. Now, since having my stillborn son, I know how important it is to count kicks every day after 26 weeks and if there is any change at all from normal to go in right away to be checked. Doctors and midwives need to be telling mothers this. In my case as well, he was moving completely normal the night before and then the next day I wasn't feeling anything. I know He passed in the night while I slept but I went in that day after many many hours of not feeling anything because I couldn't take it any longer. Every mom should be taught to go in as soon as she notices a change from normal. It has saved many babies lives.

@Mica yes this was the case for me as well. Doctors would ask if baby was moving and I would say yes. But never any information or education about kick counting and doing it at the same time every day and seeing how long it takes to get to 10 movements. For my 40 week stillborn it wouldn't have made a difference, I know he passed in the night while I slept but for many moms it has made a difference and they were able to intervene in time to save their babies. Again, I am so so sorry. Praying for you and your partner. Look into Now I Lay Me Down To Sleep. They offer free services for in hospital pictures of loss babies and their families. I am so grateful for the pictures we have

I am truly sad for your loss. I know what it is to lose a kid in your womb and is NOT easy. Your little angel is in heaven now and you should remember him/her. My prayers go to you and your family

I’m so sorry for your loss stay strong ❤️

Sorry to hear that

I'm so sorry for your loss. I believe she knows you love her and will miss her. You didn't mean for any of this to happen. Take it a minute at a time.

I found it helpful to keep the teddy bear I was given close (cuddled it, shared what I wanted to say to my daughter to it) and then placed it in my baby's casket before it was closed so she had something to accompany her on her final journey.

Wow I’m so sorry this is so heartbreaking 💔 wishing you & the dad strength and healing 🙏

Sorry for your loss! Thoughts and prayers for all of you, it’s so hard losing a child x

I’m so so sorry 💔

Sorry for your loss 💔

I am so sorry for your loss❤️ It is one of hardest things in life to face Sweety we are not the one's who take or give life, nor we are the ultimate protecters ❤️❤️ "Surely, god takes what is His, and what He gives is His, and to all things He has appointed a time... so have patience and be rewarded" Prophet Muhammad said may peace be upon him Life is a test will we be patient and accept or suffer? I read your post yesterday and i cant stop thinking about you

I’m sorry for your loss. Sending love to your whole family. 🫂🫂🫂 It’s been over a year since I lost my baby at 9 days old. Not a day goes by that I don’t think about her but the grief we tend to handle it differently as time moves on. If you need to talk, I’m here for you. xx

Thank you all for the well wishes. This time has been an entire 180 process and I feel much safer in the environment they provided. She was delivered on the 19th via cesarean, and I've been spending these couple of days with her. My partner came by yesterday evening to do her blessing together, and he said his goodbyes. It's been rough but we are getting through it the best way we can.