How much does your husband partner drink?
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I'm on the same boat as you😔 it has gotten way out of hand and I booked some counseling beginning next week. I really hope this helps the situation for us.
Zero, we don't drink at all. I use to drink daily to numb my anxiety. 2 beers but haven't in a decade.
We have a 5 month old and a 2.5 year old. My partner drinks at least 4-5 drinks almost everyday since our second was born. They are spaced out over the day typically but I am definitely concerned about it.
That's a drinking problem, I'm in long term recovery (11yrs) and those amounts of drinking are an issue! For anyone to handle. He might seems like he is functional but that's dangerous for everyone involved. I would try and talk with him about his amounts and consistency of drinking try & get him back to his clean & sober roots. Support groups AA/NA. I couldn't do it. I know the end results....
@Sarah that's a beautiful choice for not only you but ur beautiful babies 💗
Have him take the assessment. I got this email today of all days. https://healthy.kaiserpermanente.org/health-wellness/alcohol-care/assessment
My husband rarely drinks…social settings or occasionally on a date night or vacation. Daily would make me uncomfortable, because why? That’s money that can be going towards the kids plus a lot of other issues of course, especially if he had issues in the past. Sounds like he’s a good dad and partner. Can you have a conversation about it? He may not know it bothers you- can he put that money towards some help around the house maybe a babysitter or housekeeper to take a different kind of edge off of the situation?
My partner drank 3-4 times a week ranging from a few light beers to 12 a night! The nights he would drink a lot he would gamble. Thus, because he wasn't able to control himself and not gamble when drinking, he decided to cut back. He is in that process. He drinks less now but will have some set backs... Your partner definitely had a drinking problem. The fact that he can't go one day without alcohol says it all. I would get him to acknowledge that and try to get help. Good luck!
We made a deal. I wanted him to drink in moderation or not at all and he wanted to avoid alcoholism. Thankfully moderately is clearly defined as 4 or less drinks per day AND 14 or less drinks per week. So we agreed to only drinking on the weekend. It was tough for him at first because he was used to drinking every night.
@Anna i'm sorry. That's still too much drinking in front of my children. They're gonna grow up. Thinking that alcohol is normal and that it is not an addictive substance. You want your children to be alcoholics, not me 14 drinks. That's just too much for a day. That's uncalled for all you are doing is enabling which was one of the worst parts of having a partner that enables an alcoholic or a drug addict of their substance and the things that they do while they're using their substances
It doesn't help us. It makes it worse for us, but we'll also take advantage of the situation because we're addicts
@Misty Rae thank you :) so glad I got past that.
He has some on the weekends and mid week. Whiskey