Piercing hole grew over

Why can’t you get it repierced cause you’re breastfeeding?

Yeah not alot of piercers would do it due to breastfeeding and the risk of infections 😔

Well ...I mean .....why is it unfair for you to organise your self care?

Timing. Pick your battles.

@Ella it's unfair because he gets the luxury of doing whatever whenever where I don't have that same luxury. He doesn't do tattoos or anything but I can't because I'm breastfeeding. I try to do self-care in the evening when the kids are asleep but it's so hard to actually enjoy myself knowing I'm the one who is constantly taking care of them

I don't think this is about self care then, not really. It's about him not pulling his weight with the kids.

Does he watch the kids on his days off so you can do stuff? Do house work alone, shopping alone, groceries alone, have a break and watch a show alone? He needs to.

I know you're breastfeeding but you can still take an hour for yourself

@Ella right now he's a stay at home parent like my self except he's collecting ei due to work letting him go. He's in the middle of rebuilding a car in the garage as well which I've been trying to be understanding and supportive with, but its getting so hard when I don't have the breaks i need. He claims when he does give me a break the kids actually listen and plays with them and this and that but claims he doesn't do it when I'm around because im me. I'm apparently not hands on enough being a stay at home parent either or I'm not feeding our kids healthy food (a well balanced meal) but doesn't seem to understand the depression funk I've been in lately. It's extremely discouraging buying food that in the end goes to waste.

Oh I know, kids waste sooooo much food. That's absolutely crazy, if he's not working he needs to be doing 50% child duties.

@Ella right, but he doesn't see it that way as he's trying to rebuild a car but he's starting to get overwhelmed with it which I'm understanding of but he's invested to much money into it to just give up on it. Like I'm trying to be understanding and help him through this but mentally I'm struggling myself and then getting upset with him because of what I see appose to what's actually happening.

Girl I totally feel you. During my pregnancy 4 of my ear piercings healed by falling out and such randomly AND I had to take out both my nipple and belly button piercings. My partner tries to be kind but he isn't understanding and there's a difference. 🥲😅 He kept reassuring me I can eventually get them re-done but now I don't have the money to spend $40-$50/per piercing. 🥹 Being a mom is a HUGE sacrifice in so many ways, big and small. As for your piercing IT WILL get done but that's something that's easy to schedule for yourself anyways or just do a walk in shop. It's frustrating when that issue applies over to bigger things though and I understand that pain. 🥲

Okay but no one says he can't fix up the car? He doesn't need to spend 8 hours a day on it though. Like however long he currently spends, he needs to reduce it. Is he gonna sell it when he's done?

@Briella right! They're not cheap to get done so it adds up 😭 alot of them I managed to get for free years ago so it hurts even more now like urgh

@Ella he wants to get it done asap so he can use it to apply for jobs or possibly racing it

So...it's his only car? Hmm how much money is he sinking into it?

It's in my name now instead of the previous owners so it's both of our car and at this point I'm not sure. I do make sure yo have our essentials taken care of first though so I have no worries about our kids not having what they need and try to put some funds into savings as well. I just want it done and over with so I can have my husband back and not tied up in the garage all the time