Advice with poor life balance

I have a 13 month old and am 16 weeks pregnant. I currently work over 45 hours a week in a pretty high stress environment. I love my job and we need my job to cover our bills. So leaving my job isn’t an option. I have a husband who works from home and all of our childcare budget goes to making sure he’s got help for most mornings when he’s extra busy. We have no family nearby. When I come home, he takes our dog to the dog park for 3, sometimes 4 hours. During that time I do all the cooking, cleaning, childcare, bedtime, bath time and anything else that needs to be done for the next day. In the mornings before I go to work I get our child up and ready and generally make lunches. The only time I have a few minutes to myself is if I steal them from time I need to sleep. The most self care I get to do is brush my teeth and wash my face. Sometimes I get a whole 10 minutes to take a shower. I’m going insane but don’t see a way out, especially with another kid on the way where any time I once might have had will go to taking care of a baby and pumping/breastfeeding. I need advice on how to bring more balance into my life.

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Well. I really don't think 3-4 hours walk daily is needed for the dog. He is clearly taking this time for himself. Which is ok if you get to have the same time for yourself (which clearly not). So he can cut this to make 30min walk with the dog and do his home chores as you do (cleaning, cooking, bedtime,...) It's not fair at all

I agree^ 3-4 hours is absolutely insane. 1 hour max is perfectly fine.

He should absolutely cut the walk down and at least help you with all the evening chores that way you can at least get a long hot shower.

The dog walking time should include pushing 13 month old in a car/wagon/bike. That way while you’re working taking care of the house, you can have some time for yourself. You’re here asking for some advice and we’re all noticing the lengthy dog walks. You both need to have a talk and decide what other responsibilities he can take up to help you out. He can help with bedtime and bath time at least for the remainder of your pregnancy and when both babies are present. Atleast he should have a full day’s responsibillity or two, without you around to experience how tiring it is.

I completely agree -ask him to start bringing baby with him when he goes out for a bit! And if you want, you can still do bedtime bad bath time to enjoy time with baby. It’ll be a nice and much needed break for you. And good adjustment for your older baby when baby #2 comes!

I would send the kid with the dad when he walks the dog. Win win lol

Or you can all go for a walk also and share the responsibilities when you get home.

I know this might sound hard but he needs to understand if he has you paying half of everything means he is also putting half of everything!!! If you have to work he has to work. This is work related and home related jobs. If he wants you to take care of everything like you are doing + house chores sounds like you are a single mom. I feel you have all the right to feel worn out and with what’s coming you guys better talk it out and make him understand even if he stays at home during the day ( with paid help ) does not mean it’s all on you. Stay strong mama ❤️

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