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Nothing wrong with you. Men dont understand that being a SAHM is a fulltime job. My ex thinks i have it easy
It sounds like you’re carrying an overwhelming load, and what you’re experiencing is completely valid. Balancing childcare, household duties, pet care, and a business is a lot for one person to manage, especially without consistent support. It’s not abnormal to feel exhausted, stressed, and unsupported under these circumstances—you’re doing the work of multiple people while also dealing with illness.
It’s also concerning that when you express your feelings, your husband dismisses them by comparing stress levels instead of offering support. This isn’t about a “low threshold for stress,” but rather about the imbalance of responsibilities that would be hard for anyone to handle. Relationships thrive on mutual support, and it’s important for him to recognize the effort you’re putting in, as well as your need for rest and assistance.
Have you considered having a more focused conversation with him about how this is affecting you, without it turning into a comparison of who handles stress better? You deserve to have your feelings acknowledged and to work toward a more balanced approach to managing the household. It might also help to explore practical solutions together, such as outsourcing some chores, reorganizing responsibilities, or even carving out some dedicated time for yourself to rest and recover. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it’s okay to ask for more support.
You feel this way because you are, in fact, working constantly and getting no rest. If your husband did a good job sharing responsibilities while you were working, then you lost something arguably more important than money when you stopped. It might be time to consider going back. Some daycares are less expensive once your child is no longer a baby or after they're potty trained. You or your husband might look at slightly higher paying positions/companies. You could see it as an investment in your career that'll make more money in the long run. (The more experience you get now, the sooner you can be promoted or move to a better position). You could see it as an investment in your marriage. (His attitude is trashing your bond and causing resentment) You could see it as an investment in your health (which, if it's even possible to fix, will ultimately be more expensive. You're just delaying those costs.) Knowing what you know now, go through the budget & see if there's anything you can cut, even temporarily.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are overwhelmed, and severely under appreciated. He’s gaslighting/manipulating you by telling you that he handled so much etc because that’s obviously not true. I don’t know your situation but based on what you’ve said it seems like he doesn’t do anything to help at home. My husband works 2 jobs and he will still try to help because being at home 24/7 and handling everything at home and the baby by yourself is very taxing. It’s not normal to do all of this with support- and nobody would be fine doing everything you do by yourself with no support