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I would rub to them and take my baby back. That's totally normal you get anxious. Would they grab a tiger baby from they mom?! NO they wouldn't, because tiger mom would kill them. We have a protective instinct over our child and that's normal to feel terrible with this situation. I would be firm and not allow this to keep going. If you don't set boundaries, they LL keep doing it.
Oh and take that stroller back too. "Thanks MIL, I'm on it" and you grab the stroller back. You don't ask, you just take your baby back.
You have every right to be upset. Taking your baby without asking is not ok x
Not overreacting- it is your baby. Anyone mad you want to hold, have your baby with you is the selfish person. I would tell my husband and have him address it. It is possible they don’t see it as rude and haven’t considered not doing it and might just need to be told (as insane as that sounds)
You can speak up. Say “I’m pushing the stroller just fine, thanks. If I need help I’ll ask for it” When they take baby from the basement, say “now is not a good time, I was just about to do something with her. Please ask next time.” Keep repeating it every time and they will get the hint.
My mil did this with my son when he was young it took a bit of boundary setting by both myself and my husband to get the message across. I would pick your battles but also if it feels wrong speak up. They may be thrown off at first but this is your baby and you know their needs. Like maybe if they come down and say hi and go to get the baby you can say oh were you looking to spend time with xyz and based on what you want you can say oh we are just about to have a nap or a bottle etc. Maybe say, do you want to have a scheduled time for grandma and baby every day if your comfortable with that? This can be sold to mil as something positive and give you a designated break 🤷♀️❤️
If it was my first baby, I'd have felt the same. I think to avoid confrontation you can take advantage of those moments to make some mommy time - time for yourself. Go take a nice shower, a nap or anything that you feel will benefit you. That said, your feelings are 100% valid and if you wanted to, like others have said, you can absolutely speak up about it. In the long run, a little helping hand could be a blessing but if it doesn't feel that way, you definitely have the right to say something.
Speak up hun this is a very crucial time to set down boundaries. My MIL tried certain things like that as well, and let's just say she is not seeing my children anymore and wouldn't even dare try anything of the sort again. I will never be disrespected like that, taking my child without permission is the same as kidnapping to me, I don't care if you are a stranger, a sister, and especially my MIL. You do anything that has to do with my child without asking me first, it's over with. Even if you live in their house and renting out the basement, she doesn't own you or your child she still has no rights even being the grandparent she is nobody and cannot do whatever she wants. If you any to start it off nicely by having a sit down conversation and show that you have a backbone please do so it's better than not doing anything and keep getting stepped on.
My MIL used to do this too when we lived with them and I didn’t like it either. I remember once she took him upstairs to her bedroom more than an hour when he was less than a month old and I was literally crying and very anxious. I was always “afraid” to go and take him back because I didn’t want drama and asked my partner to do it but if your husband is not at home you should go and take her, no matter what. xx
Some people are not used to asking for every little thing. Even the stroller part, I don’t think I’d have asked cos to me it’s not that serious. Your feelings are valid. Maybe talk to them to start asking.