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@Katie awww. Yes, perhaps! My only point of reference is my older child, my daughter, and she didn't go through that phase ever so I'm left speechless quite often with how my son thinks and speaks 🤨
I would definitely say oldest vs youngest thing. That being said, I’ve never known a kid at 3 to learn those words without hearing them. I say this with utmost compassion that I can’t display in text… but does Dad talk to you this way? I had noticed my niece doing this and quickly realized it was the way her Dad was talking to my sister… so she, being the more emotional kid, started emulating Dad when she was angry and devaluing Mom just the same. But a kid trying to say I don’t like you when they’re angry is more normal.
@Laura no he doesn't! Well, the first year of my sons life was hard. We argued all the time. Went to therapy and got our act together and have been solid, loving and kind ever sense. Absolutely no arguing now. The only thing I can think of is the time he spends on YouTube? However I usually don't allow much screen time with the iPad 🤔 oh and edit: he seems to notice more things other kids say, like at the park. My daughter never pays attention, but I can't recall a situation where we have been around a kid/s that were foul speaking. It's so baffling!
I definitely don’t think it’s a gender thing I have a boy and a girl- boy is oldest but both my kids would not say things like that. And my kids are 8 and 9 and both of them do not say words like that in an agressive way and they have unlimited screen time. Where would he learn to pick up that kind of language/ aggressive tone is what I’m wondering and maybe it isn’t a bad idea to try therapy. So he can learn to process his feelings in a healthy way without saying those things because he is lashing out verbally for a reason. And try to learn who is teaching him to react that way.
Oh good! Ok yes, you may be right about YouTube. I also noticed my more emotional kid becoming more rude and sassy after watching some of these YouTubers that have become popular. Dad and I started vetoing YouTube and telling them only DisneyPlus, unless they are watching the show with us in the room.
@Lyss I'm home with him 24/7 😶🌫️ he has had more babysitters than my daughter ever did, but it's always been for short time frames and they always seem soooo sweet.
Incognito that’s where therapy comes into play so maybe they can help you figure it out
I didn't even think of therapy 🫣 but not a bad idea. I do remember being a lot like my son and said very mean things, however I didn't have a happy home. My son was an angel according to his Mom. So wonder where the nature vs nurture comes into play. My sons home life is very playful, loving, freedom to make choices. It's odd for sure.
Yeah idk- I will add my kids watch YouTube kids daily and still don’t say things like that so I’m not sure it would be fair to say YouTube (granted I am restrictive of what pages they watch) is the reason so yeah therapy could probably help you get answers cuz it is odd and I hope you can figure this out! You got this momma!
Maybe it would be from the babysitters? Kids are a sponge so even a small amount of time he spent with the sitters he could learned that from them. I don’t think it’s a gender thing cuz my son is the sweetest thing and gets unlimited YouTube screen time I think he learned from somebody def
Just want to add - my daughter did also swear a little at 2.5 / 3 years old and she wouldn't dream of it now. It was mainly at the cats when they would fight as she had heard her dad doing the same ("fucking cats!!"). I just explained to her that we don't use that word and she understood - she didn't do it for very long. Have you tried sitting down and explaining? I'm assuming you have
Aww, I don't know if unkind is the right word? If it makes you feel any better, my 4 year old sounds just like your 5 year old. She tells me she loves me all the time. Don't get me wrong, she has her moments, but she's mostly v well behaved and sweet. However, when she was about turning 3 she would come out with some of the worst things - "I don't love you", "you're not my friend", "I don't like you" etc. completely unprompted. She eventually stopped saying things like that, so it was just a phase. It could be the same with your little boy?