Advice on relationship!

Advice on this relationship, My partner gets home from work every single day he has dinner done for him , he then dumps his plate on side I’m expected to wash everything up daily and cook , he leaves rubbish all on the side for me to put in the bin , I do the washing his ironing , he then just sits on his phone for the whole night , we never go out anywhere on dates we been out twice in a year his response is always “ I’ve got no money” I’ve even said I’d pay my half , I feel I never get a break and me time to go out together yes he works and I can respect that but I just don’t feel this is a relationship at all i feel nothing is appreciated and everything is expected , I feel myself getting very snappy lately and irritated by little things , Ive been so poorly with the flu and not once been asked if “ he can do anything to help” just feel so fed up 😩

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That’s awful. Sorry you’re going through this. Have you discussed this with him?

@Candy yes I have e but nothing seems to be changing don’t really know what to do anymore 😫

Honestly sounds like you’d be happier without him. Stop doing his washing, stop doing his ironing. Don’t cook for him every night. Yes he works but it’s his house too so he has responsibilities he’s not a child. If you carry on you will burn yourself out and become resentful towards him. Please have another chat and tell him how serious you are

I think relationships are like kids. You need to treat them with kindness but to be firm when needed. I would talk to him again and make it clear there will be consequences to his behaviour. I am not saying leave or something (families needs work and especially when a LO is involved), but no more dinner, no more cleaning after him etc. Being a mom is a full time job too and its not even paid, plus its a 24/7. So you need to establish who is doing what and when (cooking, cleaning, shopping, time off etc).

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