None of my family has ever asked for money. They don't mind watching my girls for a few hours for me to do what I need to do.
@Ashley I feel like asking for money to bond with your nephew/ grandson is odd
I think this scenario is a bit different from most since you are asking for your sister to take care of your son for 3 days. Parenting is a job that we commit to on our own and should expect no help. I do think that family that cares should be available to help in emergencies or a couple hours here and there. More than that is an amazing gift that should not be expected.
I think if she had plans or didn’t know far enough in advance that’s valid… or maybe she’s not a kid person? I would definitely feel saddened by that and somewhat offended if my sister didn’t care to bond with my child, or expected pay to babysit. I get that a few days is a lot, but if given a lot of advance notice you’d think she’d want the special bonding time with her nephew! But I do think it would be odd to pay your sister to watch your kid. Unless you guys aren’t close. Like my family would expect me to pay them if I was asking them for regular child care (for example if I asked my retired mom to watch my kids Monday-Friday while I go to work)… but not for small babysitting gigs. Idk it definitely feels weird to me
My sister might say the same thing because she’d have to take off work and also I understand she just simply doesn’t like kids and they make her anxious. So thankfully I have a decent amount of other family like aunts and my parents that love to watch them. I’m sorry. That sucks but if she’s like my sister that might be why
@Miriam it’s funny cause it’s my sisters weekend off and she said she doesn’t want to waste it
No, they don’t ask for money. However they live 8 hrs away so it doesn’t happen often!
My parents and in laws watch my kids for free. I cannot imagine them asking me for money. My MIL is thrilled when I let her watch the kids or better yet have sleep overs with grandma. Have not asked my sisters or other family members for help though.
My family doesn't ask for me to pay them, but I can't get them to help with anything. My husband had to go out of town for a work conference for 4 days, and neither one of my sisters would come help with my girls. Our mom ended up guilting them into coming to stay with me.