You absolutely can tell her off is she is in your home with your kids
I’d definitely tell her off
I feel you should probably discuss your responsibilities regarding her… my partners boys get told off by me just as my own kids do. They’re in our house, they live by our rules and I will absolutely be the first to enforce them x Also I see not issues with a camera in the room. I have them too x Edit: just noticed this was your exes child so I understand why it may not feel like your place, I feel a discussion is still worth having where you decide your able to tell her off for things whilst she’s in your house or she doesn’t come anymore🤷♀️
If his children are visiting your home, they follow your household rules. Sounds like the household rules need establishing between you both so that you can both enforce them. But kindness to one another should be at the absolute top! Xx **just realised you aren’t together anymore. If he wants to visit the children in your home and bring their sibling, he follows your rules.
Nah I'd say she's not allowed over anymore if she thinks that behaviour is okay with babies and especially if he won't say anything to her. You are not in the wrong for having a camera on your child, or are you supposed to remove the camera because his child is there😅
If you’re in a position where he is happy with them all sharing a room then you are absolutely okay to explain that behaviour isn’t okay. Maybe speak indirectly and have a conversion with all the children (totally get yours won’t understand so much) but about kind hands and boundary’s and understanding our strengths and our individual sizes and how that means we need to be sure we are gentle with people. Would that work? At the end of the day she doesn’t need to be screamed at and genuinely might not understand she’s being a bit heavy handed. A gentle reminder about how we handle ourselves and others might go a long way x