I need some advice

My be we just have to be patient with them , may be some day the tantrums gone end. Imagine my 2.5 yrs can cry ,cry,cry,very hard to control.imagine she even wants to fight me at times😔😔 I feel very sad and overwhelmed that I can't calm her

Backpack reins......my son was a sprinter and when he demonstrated good listening he could hold the pushchair independently and if he demonstrated good behaviour he was able to walk beside me. How confident are you throwing your own tantrum, I done it once and he soon stopped🤣🤣🤣 but I got some strange looks and compliments and I am not adverse to time out in public. What triggers him, do you reaffirm rules before you go out, as we are walking I use to ask what is good behaviour and reward with exaggerated praise for correct answers. Going shopping I gave them a list and asked them to help by asking what's next or fetching items. I always told my son what we would be doing. First we are...... Then we..... And once one activity is complete ask them what's next Playing games as you walk eye spy colours was a great one or who can find a........ Praising good walking continuously Allowing opportunity for him to run and be free. We use to play a game red light green light green means go and when I say...

Red it's time to stop which can be used outside if they walk a little ahead. Asking him to push the stroller/pushchair or pram.

I feel you! My son is 3 and my daughter is 8 months old. When my daughter was like 2 months old the not listening started with my son. We dealt with the running in public too, which is so tough when it’s just you and both kids. I just did my best to keep calm but let him know his choices were not okay. When we got home and he had calmed down I would talk it over with him and we would discuss what happened as well as what we could do differently. I will say it has been much better! He still has moments of not listening ( as any toddler will) but it is not as bad as it was in those first few months. Having him help push his sister in the stroller has also helped!! I also tend to put my daughter in the carrier when I can so it frees up my hands. I wish I had better advice to give, but it’s nice to know it’s not just us dealing with it!

When my daughter was born my son went on a jealous rampage of not listening. Some genuine mommy and me time as well as talking about expectations together helped. He also loved being a helper. Help me find this, cross this off the list etc. It helped a bunch