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I found out like yesterday that my husband likes his time away from me. I’m a loud Eastern European woman lol and he said I can be a little overbearing, but I just love him so much and I feel like it’s becoming one-sided. I know he loves me but hearing that really hurt me. I see the way my brother is with his girlfriend, they’re so in love. They talk to each other all the time when they’re at work (I don’t hear from my husband) they wait for each other at the door, see each other off or always hugging and kissing, and holding hands. (My husband and I are like that too but not often enough for me) They don’t want to spend any time apart. I’m so happy for them, but it also makes me a little jealous because my relationship isn’t like that, not anymore, but at the same time they don’t have a toddler. This just isn’t what I thought our relationship would turn into. He loves his alone time cuz he’s a huge gamer and that’s all he does. His set up is in the basement and he’s always down there. He has the audacity to say he needs alone time when that’s all he has, the past few days we’ve been together were the most we’ve spent together in a while but I guess that was too much for him. Last week he got a futon but since getting that, he hasn’t been coming to bed. We were having Halloween movie nights the past few nights so last night, I asked him “after I put our baby to bed are we gonna watch another movie” and he said “no I want to game” he didn’t wanna even be alone with me in the room. He doesn’t mind being away from me, he says it has nothing to do with our relationship but it still hurts. He vapes and he drinks energy drinks and stays up all night he doesn’t take care of himself. My family even notices him rushing me to bed so he can go downstairs. I just don’t know what to do.

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Get ride of that video games it will help the so much me and my husband had to do it more then once

Girl I’m going thru this exact situation my husband got hurt at work and has been home for the last month and that’s all he does I literally packed a bag and left because I couldn’t take it anymore there’s obviously more to it but it’s genuinely because of these stupid ass games like why can’t they grow up and leave the gaming to the teenagers like they don’t have a wife and kids that want their attention. If you want your alone time then go be single with no family 🤷🏼‍♀️

Don't make them get rid of their games. That's their outlet. That's a good thing. There is a reason they are avoiding but you won't find out from us. Have a conversation where you welcome their honesty. Don't judge. Find out what is bothering him. Make the relationship fun again. We tend to get lost in routine and overwhelm the man. Start a conversation with, "Can we talk?" Not "We need to talk." Keep it short and sweet. "Things are feeling off. I notice you need more alone time, but I am feeling alone. Can we talk about why that is?"

@Kattie Norton it’s a whole pc 🤣 that’ll be a whole thing

@Larissa well it’s that or the marriage you have to pick what’s more important

@Chloe I don’t mind him gaming, I game sometimes too but it’s rare lol I just want to spend more time with him :/ my brother and his girlfriend are not thrilled with what I told them about my husband and him wanting to be away from me 🤣

There's nothing wrong with gaming, my partner is a gamer, but he also does want to spend time with me! If your relationship wasn't like this before then you definitely need to have a conversation about it. Are you one those people though that always has to fill silence? As I find that annoying lol. My partner will talk during movies and I have to tell him to stop lol

@Rebecca I’m not one of those lol I’m just happy to be involved 😂 regardless of what. He literally stays up most of the night gaming

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