Burntout

Do you have any family or friends that would be able to watch him for a few hours? If you do i reccomend asking one so you can get some "me time" to do whatever you want like nap or go get a manipedi or anything. For him not wanting to be put down for a nap if you see him getting tired just put him down he will end up going to sleep, my son has times where hes tired but cries and i let him for 5 to 10 minutes if hes still nor asleep 10 minutes in i go in comfort him and redo it till he finally goes for a nap. Doesnt have to be 5 to 10 minutes it can be for however long you are comfortable with. Its hard hearing him cry but you also need some time to rest. I use tummy time as a resting time as well

I felt like this too. The five month mark is where I really felt like I couldn’t go on. Can you get a wrap? Having baby strapped to me made me feel better trying to sleep sitting up. Not recommended but I literally couldn’t lay my baby flat due to silent reflux and im a single mum. And I had to do something as I had horrific utis after a c section catheter so I felt constantly unwell. I then transitioned at night to a cot in a different room and got a baby monitor and after a few nights I stopped worrying so much and he started sleeping for much longer periods of time. I used a hot water bottle to heat up the cot and removed it before putting him down. Helped him settle. I still struggle at the 10month mark as I don’t sleep well but not because of the baby. Maybe you can talk to your doctor? Post partum is hard and some medication might just help you level out your emotions a little bit. I gave in at 8months and went on an antidepressant and I don’t regret it at all xxx

@Monique my family never come here I have to take him to them for them to see him but my partners family help alot so I get a few hours in the day but I can’t rest I use it to clean because he won’t sleep unless on me.I wish I could just use it to sleep or have a bath but I do all the house work cooking shopping ect aswell. I tried this but it’s so hard maybe if I did it a few times he would settle. Yes tummy time gives me a few minutes! thanks for your advise x

@Incognito yeah he has the same issue with reflux and Awhh that sounds awful 😢 yes I’ve started tonight just trying to get him to nap in his cot in his room but stayed in there as I don’t have a monitor yet and he did half an hour 😂 but I’m gonna keep trying to get him to nap in there and see how he goes maybe after a few times I can just use a monitor for the naps in the day ? The hot water bottle is a good idea actually he loves cuddling into me so that might give him some comfort. Yes I think sometimes it’s just thinking of everything I know I’m the same at night too always thinking of the next thing so I use notes on my phone to just try to get rid of some of those thoughts. They’ve doubled my antidepressants which helps and gave me a sleeping aid but that really knocks me out and when waking I felt really drowsy so I stopped as I was felt it wasn’t safe.I don’t know how you do it alone i have help to a degree and I still feel deflated. Thank you xxxx

It does take a couple times, my son had a bout of only wanting to sleep with me but i had to do things so had to try and get him to sleep without me and managed after a couple days to get him used to not always being with me

@Monique thank you I will try x

Sorry you're going through this. My 15 week old won't nap during the day unless on me, so my only safe solution is to co-sleep for naps every few days to recharge! Then shell sleep! My LO isn't turning over yet but once she is ill probably use bed rails or a floor bed. Hope this helps you xx

@Claire Thank you for your advise and yes I think a floor bed will be a good idea xxx

Hope this helps you! Me and my LO had a 1.5hr nap this afternoon! I was falling asleep on the sofa, tried putting her in the moses basket but she wasn't in the mood. Fed her to sleep on the bed and we had a nap!