Shy child in daycare
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That sounds odd to me. My son is not as social but I’ve never seen him left alone to play either a staff stays close or they encourage kids to parallel play. Granted he is younger (18 months). Do you know their curriculum style?
Yeah whenever we see nobody is next to her engaging or playing . I understand they want kids to do independent play at 3.All she needs a small start that’s all. If some staff just engage her a little she will warm up sure . Because when we take her to park or other friends gathering she will be little uncomfortable for initial 20mins then she will mingle play giggle with all. When I ask they say independence and engagement should come from kid. We won’t push through it . I have registered some other day care also but you know in Toronto getting spots really take long time . We are really worried how she is going to cope up with school and next !
I really hope I get some calls from other day care . So I can switch her . We feel terrible seeing webcam and her in carpet all alone !
That's really weird. They let her sit there all day? Ive never heard of thst happening or seen that at any child care center.I would be removing her from that program for sure. Does she do the food stuff with you as well at home?
No that’s at day care only . She eats well at home and she sings . Play with play doh , toys and is mostly happy . But in day care she is always sitting and nobody care except at food hour . Am planning to remove her but unfortunately we do not have alternate option now.
Give her some stickers she can hand out and share with some friends. Invite a few friends and their parents around to your home for spaghetti. She'll get used to having some of these children around and their parents will likely say hi to her when they go to pick up their children. I'd keep her there and just give her time. I was a child who needed time to figure out which friends I wanted to play with. Ask parents if their children go to any clubs and ask if you guys can tag along. She'll be able to bond with this child and will be around a different group of people. When you go shopping have her pay and do the talking. She probably won't but encourage it. She'll get there.🫂
I haven’t tried giving stickers but fantastic idea. Anything for her to open up I will try all these. We are picking her up little early before other parents but I will take this chance to meet them and find some play dates . Hope this make her comfortable much around kids .
I feel so angry & upset for you! Have you not raised this with nursery? Tell them it’s not acceptable?
I asked them. Response was they should open up and they won’t push anything now . M Looking for other options now
do you not feel upset or concerned that your child is being left to just sit idle? with that webcam access, you should be expecting to see the staff there trying to encourage your daughter to warm up to playing/spending time with others. it just seems like they couldn’t give a toss, and that’s not unusual for these daycares and nurseries. i’ve worked in them, and my god how nasty a majority of the staff are, it’s all nice to parents faces, and the opposite behind closed doors. i’m not sure why they’re complaining to you about your child not eating properly, this seems like a sign that your child isn’t feeling that comfortable and is quite on edge to me. she’s not expressive in daycare because she’s not feeling safe and comfortable to be expressive, is that a shock to anyone since she’s just being left alone like you say? i think your option is to look for better childcare if you want to keep sending her.