I think you need to talk to him. There’s been a couple things that have happened over the past 8 years that have happened that have made me upset. But we’ve talked about it. Sur ei can still get sad about it but I wouldn’t say resentment. I think yall need to sit and talk for sure and maybe even go to couples therapy. He needs to understand why you’re feeling this way
I still really resent something my partner done 5 years ago, I've told him before I won't ever forgive him for it. I know it sounds petty but it was something really important. In my case it hurts because me, and our family were less important to him at the time than him doing what he wanted. I kind of see that in your situation too, that his wants trumped something you'd expressed as important. Not all, but most men are selfish and go by the thought of meh, she'll get over it.
I haven’t been with my partner long enough for it to be a long time but I’ve been mad at this dude my whole pregnancy lmao. If I was in your shoes I’d tell him his haircut is ugky every time 🤣 or just something petty cause I can hold a grudge forever and ever
I’m the same way I hold grudges like a MF! There’s several things my husbands done over the last 10 years together that I don’t know if I’ll ever be able to forget.
This is just a result of the lack of proper communication. Maybe try to sit and tell him how you feel without trying to make him feel bad?
Communication goes far I don't hold stuff in bc I'll explode
We have chatted about this multiple times! He literally says “my hair looked nice long! I liked it that way! I got it cut when it started looking bad! I wanted a change!” He says our photos look fine! And I cant recall but he probably did apologize most likely just to end the topic It just irks me still I spoke to my personal therapist about it too and she knows I have this “perfectionist” trait so she said to work on that and just look at big picture Lol I am still mad though! Its been a year and every haircut he gets I go right back to anger zone! Gosh I was totally fine before typing this and now I am mad again lol omg But thanks for understanding! I honestly thought I may get hate msges saying “omg get over it, its just a haircut and a photo! Who cares!” Lol glad we are all on the same boat!
Idk it sounds like he's NOT doing it on purpose Just cause you thought he needed a haircut, he didn't agree. Me and hubby are the opposite, he runs off to get a haircut every 6 weeks and I'm like Oh, it was just starting to look so cute.
Nah, I'm the same haha 😂 I think it's just that he didn't make the effort for you, especially with the haircut thing. Have you spoken to him about it?