Unhygienic household

Hey hun i’ll just be very blunt here i hope you don’t mind, I’d say to look into the private housing or go to your council. but the best thing for you to do right now it to move back with your mum if that’s where you feel comfortable. Even if your partner doesn’t agree because again your health and your baby is what matters the most here. If he can’t acknowledge that then it says a lot about him. But yeh i’d say move back in with your mum and also look for housing from the council or privately. Hope this helps x

Hi peace and luv Courtney yes please move back with mom u are a wise person at 19 and u might want to think about once the baby is born don’t take your baby in the environment they might not like that but be real with them and yourself it’s all about u and your baby because if u got sick from being there what u think would happen with your baby and if they can’t understand that oh well be be blessed young lady I’ll be praying for ya

I thought I made this post. I was in the exact same position three months ago. I would be looking for some sort of housing but move back with mom temporarily. We were living with his mom in a barely livable trailer. But we fortunately found housing. Take the thought of your baby and your well being and put it priority. ❤️ you got this

you could possibly pronounce to the council you’re ‘homeless’ and practically sofa surfing staying with in-laws where there isn’t enough room for you all and mention the hygiene and they’ll get you on homesearch and put you up a band. not sure if it’ll work though. i was homed in a foyer for a few months as i had nowhere else to go and they quickly found me a house for my LO.

private renting???

I would do what you think is best for you either move back into your mums or go private etc but just to let you know soon that a health visitor will be wanting a home visit and if they think the house is unhygienic then they’ll either help you get moved or raise concerns to social services

The only problem with going to the council and saying your homeless is your going to have to go thru a long process with temporary accommodation and this process can last years

@Isabella we’ve tried that but I have a very unstable income since being pregnant and it’s harder because of our ages

@abigail we’ve contacted our local council about the homelessness, instability, stress and hygiene, and have been on the register since June and it’s near-impossible for us to be homed x

It's simple, tell your partner to get his arse cleaning if he doesn't want to be around your "too loud" sisters. Says it's either the "loud" sisters or he cleans his ass off.

@Courtney what band are you?:( don’t get me wrong took a few months but i now have a 2 bed house ! bid on so many homes and got ignored then one day this suddenly came up and i was moved within 2 weeks😊 i really hope something pops up for you! i can imagine your stress! maybe you do need to suggest to your partner about moving with your mother, you’re thinking about what’s best for you and the kids, not just ehat you WANT xx

@abigail we’re in the silver band for a 1 bed atm, waiting for MAT B1 appointment next week before I can bid on 2 beds which is really annoying x

@Mia not directly to you, but just to say that health visitors don't do home visits before baby is born in all areas of the country- it's a bit of a lottery. To the OP- it sounds like you really want the go back to your mum's. Perhaps look at doing that temporarily and working out a longer term plan with your partner so that he doesn't feel too rejected.

@Samíe agreed! choose what’s best for you and bub x

@Courtney as soon as the mat b1 is done and you’re moved up you’ll start seeing more movement :) same happened with me lol i guess it’s more proof or whatever towards it. don’t give up though ! i was close to and now im settled into my home with my lo :) you’re doing what’s best for you and your little one! my fingers are crossed for you xx

Look for your own property

Move to your mom's. Do what makes you happy and comfortable. Pp is a very vulnerable stage and you don't want to spend it in a place with someone you can't stand and where you can't eat. Go back to your mom and tell your bf it's temporary until you find a place to be as a family. Do not believe him if he says he gonna fix what's wrong in your mil house. It's not gonna happen. Trust your gut

If he’s this selfish, it’s gonna get worse when the baby is here. Especially with new hormones and potential baby blues or postpartum rage. It’s not about him it’s about you and the baby’s health. If you’re already getting health problems, it’s gonna be worse for a newborn with sensitive immunity. Your baby won’t sleep if the baby is sick with asthma or breathing problems. So even if your baby can’t sleep much from loud sisters it’s better than not being able to sleep from being in pain from breathing problems. Plus you can tell your sisters to just be quiet and baby is sleeping, they will understand. It’s best to move back to your moms house and live without him.

I would move back to your mum's. This is a choice you are making for yourself and your child. Not for him. He doesn't have to move with you. He can't stop you from moving if you want or need to. I urge you to move in with your mum and explain your reasoning to him when you have. Keep us updated and keep safe.

I say you have to look at the big picture here are you more worried about your daughter and you being comfortable while being a brand new baby and postpartum at your moms or are you going to stick it out where you aren’t comfortable because your bf thinks your little sisters are annoying…..you being postpartum and having a newborn YOU need to be where YOU are going to be comfortable and most supported it doesn’t sound like that’s at his moms house he’s not your priority anymore….that baby is and he needs to realize that as well he’s gonna have to make a lot more sacrifices and some little sisters shouldn’t be the end of the world