Does it hurt when your in laws or your family make no effort with your child(ren) and don’t know them?

It used to bother me but now I’m over it because my son has more than enough people in his life who love him

I’m just angry for my som cause he deserves so much more. I stopped seeing them. If they want to see my son they can make the effort

What hurts more than the fact that they don't bother with my son, is that they see their other 2 grandsons almost every day. It's so unfair, but they cause so much drama that we're probably better off away from them!

No. It's their loss!

I hate people wanting to know about my child (milestones, updates, how they are growing and playing) but don't want to use the effort to send a simple message asking about us instead they just want info for nothing!!! I even tried to restart a relationship with "my father" only for him to say this sh*t... that I should just be sending updates with no effort back from him. I wanted my kid to have multiple grandparents and so far they only have 1 and that just makes me sad

Take it as a chance to teach the basic principle of reciprocity.

My parents are once every 1-2 week grandparents. My ILs are once every 1-2 months grandparents. It's my ILs' loss and my daughter doesn't really enjoy spending time with them much anyway. 🤷🏻‍♀️

For me, it’s my in laws. My family loves all their grandchildren , great-grandchildren, nieces, nephews, ect,. Especially my second sister and her wife. They would take my 5 year old son when they’re available overnight/weekend, just for my husband and I to have some “us” time. They also live an hour away. My mother in law lives about 20 minutes from us.

It definitely hurts, I'm currently mourning the relationship I hoped my LO would have with my in laws as I never knew & was not close with my grandparents & I wanted that for my daughter. I try to see it as I only want people around my daughter that want the best for her & us as a family & and unfortunately, sometimes that's not the case with some family members, so its best they keep their distance.

It does hurt...but I just remind myself that my daughter is better off without them being around a ton. Because she actually is; they're very emotionally immature, and the only way to have a really good relationship with them is to keep your mouth shut about things that bother you...which is obviously not a really good relationship at all. And also, at the end of the day, it's just not my problem. I've made plenty of effort to include them and allow them to be around (although I do expect to be respected as her mother, which they have an issue with). If they choose not to, that's on them. If my daughter ever asks why they didn't make more effort, it will be their responsibility to explain themselves to her, not mine. And if she decides she doesn't want anything to do with them one day because they were never really there for her, that's her choice.

My MIL lives about 1.5 hours away and always expects us to drive to her. Always steals photos for social media with quotes about how much she loves her little Ray of sunshine but doesn’t even check in 🤦‍♀️

I live with mine but my LG is always with me, I used to tell her to take her toy to mil and ask to play with her but mil only leaves the room to eat. Mil makes more effort for her daughters kid than mine, and when mine refuses to go to her on the odd days she comes out to say hi, she’ll threaten my child by saying ‘I’ll just go to A’s (sil’s daughter) house, she loves me more’ and it honestly pisses me off so bad but I pack so many activities in our days to keep us both busy and happy so she can never look back and think she was bored at home with everyone in the house.