Do you get along with your in-laws

If you guys don’t plz share your journey I could use advice

When my partner and I started dating his mom and j got along horribly (to be fair they didn’t have a good relationship at that time either) they believed all sorts of things about me and would spread rumors about me across the family, to the point of basically guiding my partners hand into leaving me by telling everyone that he was happier with his ex and his depression was my fault (his ex was horrible and abusive to him mind you). We ended up getting back together and getting pregnant about 2 months later. During my pregnancy his mom announced our pregnancy publicly before we did, tore down and ruined my baby shower day of (that I paid $500 for) because it was Halloween themed and believed it was satanic. She lied about having covid to try to be able to come meet my daughter when she was born, she would tell people to keep me away when she was holding her so my daughter wouldn’t want me instead of her, she would try to feed her things without me knowing (pt 1/2)

You should be number 1 for him. Not his mum. Obviously mums are important but you should be priority!

@Aislin You're writing this as if there's going to be a happy ending ...I can't possibly see how!!

@Aislin girllll I kno you were upset I would’ve been crying so hard I’m a cry baby

(Pt 2/2) my daughter is 2 now and she still does things I don’t like and I’m sure there’s things I do that she doesn’t like but we’ve started to find things in common and I’m now pregnant with our second and it’s a complete 180. She’s been planning our gender reveal, she came with to an ultrasound appointment and then took me to breakfast, she’s gotten me a pregnancy care kit, and has been reaching out to me to talk more. It’s very nice to finally have at least some kind of kind and friendly relationship with her after thinking we’d be butting heads forever. We’re not besties but things are absolutely better. Imo it has something to do with me showing that I’m here for my daughter 1000% and will hold any boundary that comes to her and have her son and her granddaughters best interest in my heart. There were a lot of assumptions made about me and I never allowed those things to hold true and remained true to who I am

I hope your relationship with your mil improves and I wish you the best of luck

Honestly my husband saw his mom’s BS before I did (I mean he did live with the woman and got treated poorly all his life) but I made sure we still saw them both as often as we could until the wedding started and her true colors started to show during the planning and I just took it. Finally after her disrespecting me, my marriage, and my boundaries with my daughter, I finally drew the line. I talked with my husband and he felt the same way and said I needed to stand up for myself. I nicely stood up for myself and showed my husband the entire test convo. She got defensive and ended up calling me an unfit mother so I completely kicked her out of our lives and said she wasn’t allowed to come by anymore. My husband agreed and was okay with it. My FIL got involved and of course backed up my MIL so my husband cut contact with him too. I’ve completely blocked them on my phone. My husband will block them but unblock them to see what they’re doing and they’re still causing fights

Not between my husband and I but still fighting my husband so it’s to the point where I’m pregnant again and aren’t telling them (they found out through other people of course) and are still making fights so we just ignore and keep going through life peacefully

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 11 months, moved in after 3 months and got pregnant after 5 months. She thinks we moved too fast in our relationship but we knew we loved each other and wanted to have kids(he’s 31 so he’s getting up there I’m 24 with a 2 year old from a past relationship) we had a bad first impression when we met and she’s taken it way to heart even after my bf explained and cleared up what happened. When we told her I was pregnant we got no congratulations from her no hug. She never talks about the baby or brings it up. It makes me not want to go there. We went for thanksgiving last weekend(Canada) and right before I told him I didn’t want to go because I feel his mom hates me and that I won’t have a good time but he convinced me to try to give her another chance and that the problem was we thought we didn’t like each other so I gave in and went and put a smile on my face and she still wasn’t very welcoming. Hardly talks to me no hug goodbye, nothing

She brought up over dinner her favourite smells and a newborn baby was one smell she loved and I replied that she’ll have to come visit us when our baby is born and she pretty much shut down that idea expecting us to bring the baby to them which won’t happen until February or March at the earliest(baby will be born just before Christmas thru a c section. His family also prevented me from socializing once during the summer during a bbq because they were constantly smoking. Someone would light up as soon as someone put their cigarette out. I gave up and just went inside

Why are you so hung up on having g a relationship with someone who doesn’t like you ? If you disrespect a parent of the child you don’t get access to the child it’s as simple as that.

I am blessed to be married to my husband and his family treat me better than my own 🩷

Meh 🫤 we don’t speak the same language, but from what I get from them (especially the mom) I don’t feel part of their family. I get used to it and I don’t bother anyone. My husband tho is great to make me feel good when I’m around them

my bd just has horrible family members honestly. most of them are horrible to him and try to use him for money. but i don’t even play like that. especially with his mother. i’m due next week and i really don’t even want her around our son but im gonna try to keep my personal feelings to myself.

we are no contact with my in laws it’s been incredibly relieving. It was a mutual decision we are grateful to have made!

I have always gotten along with my MIL, but since my son was born I find her so irritating. She makes little comments that get under my skin. She doesn’t have a filter and she just says whatever she wants about my baby. My 6mo cries almost every time we see her. Then she blames it on not getting to see him enough, but we see her at least once a week. I love her, and we still get along, but the dynamic has definitely changed.