Nursery
Show your support
My LO starts in December and he has 4 settling in days, first being 45 min which we actually are able to stay in the room with him. But after that we leave him, just drop off at the door
I would mention it to your setting, I work in a nursery and a lot of places have a door step drop off policy to minimise the traffic through the nursery and for safe guarding reasons but I’m sure if you mention it to them they’d be more than happy to accommodate your wishes although it may just be worth sticking it out and seeing if she settles faster without you as I have found sometimes that lingering parents hinder the child actually settling but every child is different xx
I'm sure every nursery has their own policy, and that's just what yours has deemed best. At our nursery, you do 2 settling in sessions. The first is an hour where you stay with them and talk through their routine and such. The second is 2 hours overy lunch where you just drop off and go. After that, it's straight into days. The first day drop off, my little girl cried when I passed her over and left, but she's been absolutely fine ever since, goes in smiling and we barely get a second glance 🤣
Ok I just thought I would get to know who’s looking after her and explain what my daughter is like , I will never know the person looking after her if I never go in
If you haven’t met her key person and haven’t had any kind of conversation about your daughter and her needs, preferences etc then I’d absolutely speak to the nursery to see if there can be more of a handover! We’ve done paperwork to share information, had a meeting, and also met the key worker before my son started.
The first 1/2 times i dropped my LB off i went in and spoke to the girls about his sleep/bottles/comfort he likes etc but by the 3rd day it was a quick door drop off - i cried on the way home🥲🥲 He does winge and cry a bit some mornings and has good and bad days while he is there x
No not met anyone in there, just went to have a look around 3 months ago
I work in a nursery myself and it’s totally normal for parents not to be allowed in as it can prolong the goodbye but also upset other children in the room. I’m lucky that I get to take my baby in as she attends the same nursery but it breaks my heart seeing her crying the last few weeks and because I wear a uniform it doesn’t unsettle the children. However, if you’ve not met her key person or had anything filled out like an ‘All About Me’ then ask for a meeting with her so you can get to know her x
I’ve always done drop at the door with my eldest. I don’t think for all children that coming into the room to settle is helpful as it can prolong the goodbye bit which they find difficult. But if you’re not happy to do that, perhaps ask the setting if you can come in to drop her off? And it’s really normal (although heartbreaking!) for them to find it hard and be upset at first. Were they comforting her? Trying to distract her? Or was she just left to cry? My eldest would cry on drop off from the separation, then very often cry on pick up too! I think from relief/remembering we hadn’t been together!!