Am I being unreasonable ??

I don't think you are no... He's your son and you say what you would like to do and not to do once they learn something that they enjoy they will continue... I wouldn't class this has rules I would it's respecting your wishes and your mum should understand this xx

It's not unreasonable but also from her side of things she's helping you out and your preventing the fun shes having with her grandchild. Unfortunately if you want to put rules in place you'd need to pay for childcare. One way around it might be to say they slipped from the window sill last night scared the life out of you! She may rethink then?? Xx

My mum also looks after my children while I’m at work. I go with the opinion of she is doing me a huge favour as it means I don’t have to pay for childcare, I trust she isn’t going to put them in harms way and she can choose how to look after them while they are in her care. I know they eat a lot more treats than I would give them and her jokey saying is as a grandparent it’s her job to undo all the hard work we put in as parents 🤦🏼‍♀️ meaning it’s not her job to parent but to enjoy the time with them.

Having family look after your children is a incredibly hard balance becos as the others say she is doing you a ‘favour’, but I’ll never agree that by doing you a favour she also gets to disrespect you as a parent. Ultimately why do do grandparents not want the best for their grandchildren? They raised us to be the best we could be. What she’s allowing him to do is dangerous and will encourage other dangerous climbing, like Zoe said maybe say he slipped.

I agree it's frustrating for you, I would just explain to LO we don't do it at home and keep trying to implement that as much as possible (obviously hard with a 15/16 month old though 🙆🏼‍♀️!) Pick your battles: No harm is being done here (mum is accompanying LO) (I disagree that dangerous climbing is being encouraged here personally) Mum is doing you a favour (be careful not to push her away)

And this is why we aren’t having my mom look after our second baby, did it with our first and it was a nightmare, but essentially it’s free childcare! This time round we have just taken the nursery fees instead… your mom wants to be a grandparent not a nursery worker so it is a really hard balance to get right x

my 16 month old climbs the sofa and onto bay window all the time, i tell her no, pull her away, which just makes her more determined 🙈 in the end i gave in 🙈 now she doesnt do it so much cause she doesnt get the attention as before. how do you get them to stop 😱

It's not unreasonable but her stopping them won't necessarily work at this age anyway, there is loads of climbing stuff at nursery, if I told them not to let them climb there because then they will at home is almost an impossible ask. That said, the chocolate and biscuits thing I would stand your ground on.

There’s always different sets of rules in place when your child is elsewhere, just enforce the rule that they don’t climb on the windowsill in your house. It would annoy me if my rules weren’t followed by my parents but the alternative is to put them in nursery.