Feeling so disconnected from family and friends
Hi everyone,
Since having my baby girl back in November I feel like I have become hyper sensitive with my interactions around friends. Questioning everything they say. Wondering if they are judging me. Worried they don't find me funny or fun anymore.
I also feel like I see the flaws more than ever with my parents. I love them to bits but I genuinely don't know how I'm alive, how did they manage to raise 4 children. We are on such different wave lengths mentally. They are just getting old and I have to remind myself you do slow down as you age but it has saddened me so much. I feel like we are on different planets.
Life feels so isolating. When I hold my baby girl that's when I feel comfort and the world stops rocking for a moment.
I don't know what I was hoping to achieve with this post. I guess I just wondered if anyone else is feeling the same way.
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I feel you... Some things got a little better now at 12 months pp. Others not yet. To me, it's the hardest part of motherhood. All my world fall down and I start to see things sooooo differently. That's ok tho. Sometimes we have to let things fall down to rebuilt better.
Gotta go find mom friends! That’s what Peanut is for. I’ve had a hard time maintaining friendships with my friends without kids now because my life has changed so much it’s hard for us to relate. Having friends with kids around the same age is so much more relatable!
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I can relate. I've always been a person who has a smaller social circle anyway, but in the years since becoming a parent, it's diminished to pretty much my husband and my mom. The people I felt were my best friends never wanted to hear about my kids, and I'm a stay at home mom so I found myself hanging out with them and literally not saying anything the entire time I was there, because right now my kids are basically all I have to talk about. My dad doesn't get how parenting/life is different now, and we've never been on great terms anyway, so it feels impossible to talk to him about anything. My mom sucked as a mom because she wanted to be my friend instead of my parent, but I've let it go and can just let her be my friend, and I've become the person whose only friend is their mom, which is embarrassing. I don't know if this is just how it is when you have kids, or if things have gotten harder since covid, or if there's just something wrong with me and I am incapable of having friends, but it's lonely.