Mainly a vent..
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I think it’s bad that a doctor would put those sorts of expectations into a new mums head in all honesty and agree you should take it with a large pinch of salt! Your baby is soo small and babies are all different. Please forget any ideas of creating bad habits. Using your breast as a comfort is totally natural (although it can be tough for the mum!) and babies sleep for different lengths at different ages. Mine never slept more than a 2-3 hours at a time for months and months and naps could be anywhere from 15 mins to 1.5 hours. Please don’t feel you’re doing anything wrong! If baby was uncomfortable, very fussy, struggling to gain weight, sleeping in very short stints etc then sure there might be red flags for things to have checked out but not because of anything you’re doing or not doing.
I freaking hate it to be honest with professionals thinking it's okay to give unsolicited need to advice in a way that says, oh everything is healthy and your both clearly doing great medically but let me just take a pick axe anyway and chip away at something that doesn't need to be spoken for. Just silly, condescending and frankly bad for anyone's mental and physical well-being in a time of healing
My son didnt start sleeping for 4 hours or longer until he was 2 months old and now my son sleeps 12 hours at night with 1 or 2 dream feedings on the boob. It is too early for her to be talking like that. I also read somewhere that repetition for 3 days can create a habit for babies, if you want to change his routine you can, it isnt too late.
Those are really bizarre "shoulds" especially for a 1 month old.
My baby will be 1 month on Saturday and he seems to be up a lot as well 😢 I also feel like I’m doing something wrong and that he should probably be sleeping more and wondering if it has something to do with feedings (I BF) 😮💨 I know I’m not giving you any solution, but just know that you’re not alone in how you feel.
At first I thought this was a one year old baby and was a bit confused by some of the responses, but a 1 month old?? The fuck? My formula-fed baby wasn't even sleeping that long at a month old. At 11 months she still has nights during growth spurts or teething where she wakes. It's absolutely absurd for any 1 month old to have "should" expectations for sleep or feeding. At that age, both are a free for all. Feed and comfort that baby, yo.
He’s only a month old 😭 there is no expectation for them to sleep longer etc. he’s a newborn… I would try and get a new pediatrician, that’s very unrealistic. You’re doing a great job, a one month old is still adjusting.
I'd honestly take much of it at a pinch of salt! If baby is healthy, who is it benefiting to say he's not eating enough? He's clearly right size weight and height so what does it matter in all honesty. Each kids usually different from last so it's not anyone's business in all honesty if he isn't ready to eat anymore - at least your not overfeeding even. Perhaps seeing a sleep consultant may be able to help out but after few weeks of giving birth, seems silly to pile on some assumption that your cutting his feeding time in half or that all babies sleep throughout when that's just not the case