Anyone else feeling like being a mum is becoming their entire personality?

No I’ve never agreed more. I feel like I’m losing all of what made me well me. It’s honestly been a struggle because now I feel like I’m “pressured” into being like a standard mum, I just want to be myself again

Find a way to mix the 2. As a mom of 3 (pregnant with #4) I struggled for a long time and got to the point where I almost resented my children/family. You’re a mom and that’s never going to change. It is one of the many hats that you’re going to wear from this moment forward but it doesn’t have to be your identity. Your interests may change, your priorities may change, but you are still you. You’re just growing into a different (I’ll argue better) version of yourself. Find something to do for yourself every day, once a week, etc that’s for YOU. For me that’s doing my hair and makeup and putting regular clothes on and not rotting in sweats and looking like a troll lol that didn’t make me feel good which made me angry at everyone around me. Putting myself together and getting my sahm tasks done during the day motivates me to sit down during nap time and after I put the kids to bed to watch a show that I like or crochet because I’m a grandma haha.

Pt2. Get out of the house and take baby with you. That may be a simple walk to get fresh air, sitting on the porch, or taking a drive to go get a coffee. It may take a bit longer and more effort to get out of the house but you’ll feel so good once you do. Be patient with yourself and baby. If baby decides to be fussy that day, give baby grace and pivot. Instead of going out, light a candle and take a bath that evening or watch a show or just take a nap lol life as a mom especially a new mom can be hard and overwhelming but it is so rewarding. You can find a balance between baby caretaker and still being yourself. You’ve got this mama ❤️

I have an almost one year old and 25 weeks almost with my second. Being a mum is the single most amazing thing I’ve ever accomplished in my life and I’ve done a lot with my life so far 🤣 I feel like in my heart everything I’ve ever done has been leading me to this time of my life, like everything had to fall into place the way it did for me to meet the man I did and have my beautiful babies…I might have a controversial opinion and maybe I’ll think differently one day but I’m DELIGHTED that I’m “just a mum”. I don’t care about going out and getting drunk anymore, couldn’t care less about doing stuff just for me, I live for my little girl and my soon to be little boy. Everything I do I do it with them in mind, I’ve bought myself some new clothes recently because yeah it’s too easy to neglect yourself but I also don’t even mind haha. Must sound batshit mental but I could just keep having babies over and over forever it’s the best era I’ve ever lived in. You’re going to love it xx

This is exactly how I was in my first pregnancy and to be fair it hasn’t really changed much since having my son and now being pregnant with my second. I find being a mum all consuming which I know others find too much but personally it doesn’t bother me, I know this stage won’t last forever and as they get older they won’t need me as much and I will naturally find other interests and things in my life but at the moment I am happy with ‘just being a mum’.

This is literally me and I don’t care 🤣 I can’t wait, I’ll be in Tescos and be like oh how cute will it be to walk round with a pram LOL