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Hi girls I’m struggling and want some tips or advice
I’m 6 months pp I have never been away from my boy as no one has offered to have him me and my partner are always having disagreements and falling out lately and no matter how my times I tell him we get no where I feel so selfish I just want a couple of ours with my partner with our my baby but I have mum guilt and think I should not be leaving him but I also need me time I know stuff changes having a baby but I’m due back to work 4th November and feel my moods going to get worse I do have adhd so can have down days but I feel more down then happy lately and I feel horrible about myself and been pregnant again I feel so upset I always feel like my partner is going to get someone better or his head will turn with his been friends and chatty to lasses on snap chat I don’t know I just need to know if it’s okay to have some time also or maybe ask my family to have my son while we have a couple of hours or even just me alone I don’t know if this feeling is normal or ok
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@Kelly-Lou thank you mean a lot my issue is I don’t have friends like no one to talk to so it’s hard
Bless you! We're all friends on here too and get it x
But also parks, baby groups and swimming, it's absolutely fine to try and start up conversations and you never know! Especially if children are similar ages. it's takes a while but it can be really worthwhile to build a network of local mum's. Most of us are busy but don't bite! X
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It's absolutely ok to have you time solo to get some sleep, downtime, this will be even more essential when you return to work and become a workout parent. You can't look after your LO if you aren't coping, or struggling and it's absolutely right to focus on yourself a bit, get help, or even speak about stress/low mood with health visitors, gp as well. People also want to help if you ask but sometimes don't feel they should intrude / offer, remember it takes a village! Also having some time just the two of you can do wonders for the relationship, your people as well as parents and crave connection, if you haven't got the bandwidth right now, it's so understandable, parenthood, especially early years is full on so you have to give yourself the gift of time together whenever you can get it in whatever way you can arrange. It's tough, but I promise you're doing better than you think, don't bottle it up, speak to your friends, don't feel bad for creating a support system outside of your relationship. X