Stressed and family emergency. Husband not supportive of my decision

My grandad, unfortunately, is very unwell and potentially has a few weeks to live. He lives aboard. We visited and flew back due to work commitments. My mum is my son's primary carer when I am at work. She has to fly back to support my family aboard, and I am stuck. My sister, thankfully, is available to care for my son in my mums absence, and I have made arrangements with her directly, and my husband thinks I am being unreasonable and not allowing his parents to help out and just wants to please his mother rather than support me during this stressful time. 1. His mother is mobility disabled and has multiple health issues, and takes medication. 2. My father in law is retired, and he retired to support his wife. He doesn't know how to change a nappy, let alone care for a young toddler. 3. They both have not supported or helped out over the course of 3 years and think this is now the perfect opportunity to take on the responsibilities. 4. I have not heard a peep from his parents or family to provide their support during this difficult time. 5. They repeatedly disregard me as a mother and disrespect me. They only want to play grandparents and do the easy work. Am I being unreasonable. I do not know what else to say to my husband. He would rather please his family than realise there are issues here. I have no holidays to take from work. I need to work to pay bills.

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It’s a pretty big responsibility to suddenly just take on. Considering his mums disability and his dad being her carer of sorts. Adding a small child could prove too much. Never get why people want to please family when it should be what is best for the child

Do what is best for your child. Do not put your child in a situation that you are not happy with just to please others. If your husband really wants he’s parents to help maybe they need to come over and show you that they are capable of looking after him while you are there. Personally I would say no to them until they can treat you with respect ❤️ x

I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. Did you talk to your husband about all the above? Surely he should understand it's best for the toddler, and that is the right decision to make. Not what is preferable for him nor his parents.. what is wrong with people these days. 🤔 considering how she disrespects you, it may or may not be appropriate for them to take on a caring role whilst you're around so you can see how they get on before entrusting them for any period alone. Toddlers are really hard work and take a lot of physical looking after. Nappies are a big thing, but also just picking them up when sad if they're hurt and making sure they aren't climbing on stuff they shouldn't be, or getting into dangerous stuff!

Hell no. Agree with all of the ladies above. Period. They pretty much said it all. Not really anything else to say. Just….. Hell no. 🤷🏻‍♀️

With all the points you just raised it's clear you made a good and sensible decision in choosing your sister over your in laws hopefully your husband see's that you're not being unreasonable it doesn't look like they would be able to cope especially as they've never even looked after your little one before.

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