So my husband is thinking of doing a job that requires a lot of traveling/flying/driving and working at various hospitals around the US. He’s extremely attractive to most ppl & overly friendly and seems to have a flirty personality.

Also, he might run into his gorgeous ex gf who’s studying to become a doctor or run into his gorgeous ex wife at the airport because she works there 😭😭 Uhg

A woman’s intuition is so important, I would say if you have a feeling that he will, he likely will.. idk for me if always had an uneasy feeling about not being sure of my past partners faithfulness and they ended up cheating. Only been in one relationship where I felt a sense of complete security like he would never do it and that’s my husband now, so I really believe in leaning on your intuition

@Autumn I wish I could trust my intuition. I’ve trusted myself a few times before and the men that seemed trustworthy had another side to them. Some cheated on me, including my first husband and the first guy that wanted to have a baby with me but then after I got pregnant wanted to force abortion on me and then one guy turned out to be secretly gay. So I really don’t trust my intuition anymore unfortunately. But I can convince him to not take this job to reduce to risk of him cheating, but if he takes the job then we can have a lot more money. But if he has more money and cheats on me then he has more control and can prob take my child away because he has a job and I don’t. It’s just a series of risks I’m thinking of. I even thought I could trust the one I’m with now because I chose to have a baby with him and then he completely changed in character after I got pregnant.

Sounds like a self fulfilling prophecy and that you need to work on your insecurities. If you think he’s going to cheat you are likely going to act that way by being overly suspicious and distrustful. Which is going to push him away and give him a reason to cheat.

Are you okay? So many insecurities are showing. Let your husband pursue his career goals. If he’s given you reason to feel this way I’m sorry to say but you should think about leaving or therapy. This is no way to live.

I kinda feel the same in a way, my fiancé is thinking about joining a different military branch than he was in, or doing oil rigging where he’s away. He’s a super people person, super friendly to the point I KNOW females would think he’s interested, and I’ve been out with him and our kids just to see women give him looks. I fear he’ll flirt w someone yes, but I fear more another female will throw herself thinking he’s asking. It’s gotta be about trust and total openness at that point. He’s gotta hear your worries and talk to you about how to ease them make sure you feel secure because he’s w YOU he wants you if he wants you to feel good and stable he’ll do what it takes

Life360? Set your number to a diff tone to know it’s you to try to answer any message/call. That’s what I would to and ask him to be painfully honest about females to lyk he’s not hiding anything to cause any sort of ‘suspicion’

My husband is also very personable and has to travel for work, but I've never thought he was cheating on me. He's very communicative when he's on business trips. We call at least once a day. I think the only way someone would be *more* likely to cheat in those circumstances would be if they were already likely to cheat.

I think trust is one thing, and being away from each other so much can make trust harder. I personally am not interested in a relationship where my partner travels a lot because I know myself and it would be hard for me to feel really connected if we couldn't spend time together on a mostly daily basis.

It seems like because of your previous relationships you’re a bit insecure with this one. It’s worth talking to him to tell him you’re feeling insecure and that if this is what he wants to do for the family that’s great but lay out what you need from him - a check in each day or something. It’d also be worth talking to a therapist about too, just all the past trauma and how to heal. Not all men cheat and you can’t live in anxiety every day.

On the one hand I think if he was going to cheat he’d do it anyway. People cheat working 5 mins away from home and coming home to their wife everyday. On the other hand if the only thing stopping him from cheating is the ‘opportunity’ because he’ll be away for work then is he worth it anyway? But from most of what you’ve said so far, this sounds like it’s more about you than him. It doesn’t sound like he’s done anything (apart from being a bit flirty) that would suggest he’d be up to no good. But one flag you raised is that he’s changed character since you got pregnant? In what way? Maybe there’s something else he’s done to make you concerned. Are you feeling insecure about your appearance? You seem pretty worried about how attractive everyone else is. Attractive people are everywhere it doesn’t mean he’s going to cheat. And if he did it’s not because you’re not good enough. Have you spoken to him about any of this? Do you ever get any reassurance from him?

My husband traveled for a while…I never thought of him cheating. If you don’t trust him then there are other concerns here.

If your husband is going to cheat, he’s going to cheat, whether he’s travelling for work or not. You can’t keep your spouse locked away in the house for fear of cheating. Which would be the only way to 100% prevent it. Live & let live. If he would cheat, why would you want to be married to someone like that anyway?

Has he ever given you a reason to not trust him?