Never happy

I have 5 kids aged between 15 and 4 months old. I have a partner but I still feel so lonely, I do everything for the kids yes my partner works 6 hours a day Monday to Friday in a warehouse so I shouldn’t complain.. but am starting to really hate him, he can go out whenever he wants, do whatever he wants, plan days with his mates go for his hair cut whenever without even thinking of who’s got the kids. I Havant been out in over 4 years my life is constantly with the kids and housework ect, I asked him after he finished work if he could kindly just sit with the 2 youngest while I did some stickers (I make vinyl stickers for people in what bit of spare time I do have when kids are asleep for 10 mins!) and he hoofed and puffed about it so I didn’t do them. He doesn’t do any night feeds on a weeeknd and he gets all the lie ins, his days off he says it’s his time to chill..when can I chill when can I do what I want? Can’t even bath when I want I have to slot it in between him and whatever he has planned for himself. Am exhausted physically and mentally I’ve been pretending am happy for way to long and I really think it’s hard to hide now. I love him to bits but s as m finding it way to hard and sick of crying. Dont know what the point is this message I just needed to get it out of me cause I literally have no one 😩😭😭

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I don’t think that’s right and I would explain to him the situation so he can see that it’s not fair on your end. Remind him he needs to do his part or you want to separate

I’d tell him to get off his ass and help. 6 hours a day hardly warrants him to do fuck all the rest of his 18 hours a day. Living his best life. My partner works 10-12 hours 5 days and then on his 2 days off he has our daughter so I can go to work.

I’ve said that he needs to help and apparently this is my job, what a job that’s 24/7 every day? My youngest isn’t sleeping either at the min so it’s harder. He just sits on his phone or his computer once he gets home from work. Oh then says he’s off out at end of Oct.. when do I get to go out to enjoy some me time. Xx

He sounds misogynistic and lazy. Seems like you’re already a single parent, so I would just get rid (in your situation) you deserve some balance and happiness in your life

@Abbie I feel like a single parent and living with a stranger xx

I can imagine! I’m sorry if what I’ve said sounds harsh, but it comes from a good place! My best friend is in this kind of relationship and it kills me to see her so unhappy xx

@Abbie no of course it doesn’t I know I need to leave not just for my sake but for kids aswell it’s just so hard to leave 😩 xx

I was in single mom vibes. Crying for 4 days now. I'm with a 2 year old . No job. No money. No friends. It is hard. But it was enough. My heart deserves to be loved. Just to bring a bill at home is not enough. And zero empathy and understanding. 😢 I just just need to be kind to myself. Bug hug mama 💕 🤗 you deserve the love you need. You deserve the appreciation. And time to reconnect with yourself ♥️ Couples therapy?

Hand him his kids, get in the car, and go. Go get a coffee, your nails done, hit the book store, drive around blasting your favorite music whatever. Just give him HIS KIDS and go take yourself a nice break.

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